Giving up or Trying Again
You know how we always advise people to try again whenever things doesn't exactly work out the way we expected it to, should that mentality be applied in everything we do or just some few things?
A couple of days ago, I decided to visit my Facebook account after about a month or two of me last visiting the app. I'm not really a huge fan of Facebook so I rarely make use of it. But on this faithful day that I did decide to visit the app, I noticed someone I had sent a friend request a while back had accepted so I decided to send her a message.
We both started texting back and forth because she turned out to be the chatty type but from the beginning of the chat, she made sure to make it clear to me that she wasn't interested in relationships or anything that has to do with a man, not because she wasn't into men but because about a year ago, she got her heart broken by her boyfriend of three years.
I tried to get more details to know what happened but she had refused to go into details because apparently doing that would be like her reliving the whole experience which I undeestood perfectly well and immediately didn't ask her any other question concerning the breakup. But like I said, she's quite the chatty one and had told me that she has no plans on dating anyone any time soon and plans on remaining single for a long long time.
It was a pretty interesting conversation with a stranger who no longer felt like a stranger and considering we had all of this conversation just few hours after meeting online, it just showed how much of a free spirit she was and also how determined she is on her quest on not being with anyone at the moment. Luckily for the both of us, I had no intentions of dating or having anything to do with her romantically so instead of feeling disappointed or whatever, I found her interesting and amusing too (she had a nice sense of humour), so we just kept on talking for hours.
But anyways, my question for the day is, is it the right thing to do, to want to give up on love like that just because you had a bad experience or should she be out there, not giving up and trying to see if she could make it work with someone else? I know that there's nothing wrong with wanting to take a break after a bad breakup, but should we always take a break when things don't go our way or does that rule only applies to the matters of the heart?
I'm asking this because after speaking to that lady for hours, I could tell how damaged she was and how much hatred she has towards men. The only reason none of it seems to be getting to me I believe is because I have this weird sense of humour and sometimes I find things that aren't suppose to be amusing to be very amusing, which is what I think of her hatred.
I believe myself and her would end up becoming good friends because we're the total opposite of each other, hot and cold.
I think the bond of friend is the strong one even more the the relationship bond. Unfortunately most of male and female start to think to carry friendship into relationship. Most of the people try to do it but it's not ok in my eyes. If emotions match from each side, the bond of relationship will be created automatically. There don't need any manual approach. So I also hope you will remain a good friend of her. And if anything happens later then levee it to the hand of fate. Why create manual approch??
Lol.. I actually have no plans of having anything extra with her other than friendship.. Relationships can be very stressful.