RE: Can you remain calm even in the face of turbulent? Practicing Equanimity is the key
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The dynamic of all interactions is actions and reactions. Acknowledging other people or a petty problem opens you to their influence.
Growing up with a narcissist, I only realized much later that a very big part of the problem was that they thought everything revolved around them. Anything and everything can be thought of as a slight or insult.
The truth of the matter is that most people care very little about other people except for how they make them feel.
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I grew up with a narcissist too, and a surefire way to make such a person fly into a rage is to tell them precisely "the world doesn't revolve around you." I have a talent for pissing off narcissists, even when I don't mean to. The momentary pleasure of flushing their proverbial toilet is seldom worth the grief I get in return.
Narcissists are compulsively defensive, fight every battle that they can, and nothing is over until they win; normal people tend to give up on lost causes. I think what @edystringz is trying to say is "don't be like them, not every battle is worth fighting."
I know what you mean. After it got to a certain point and when I knew that I wasn't beholden to their power, I let them know that they were full of crap.
For sure. Completely agree that discretion is the better part of valor. No point getting bruises when they're not necessary.
I agree to this as well. Thanks to you guys for contributing
I appreciate
That is true, @steampunkkaja, they are defensive, never want to take the fall for anything
If we react to them, we open ourselves to their influence like I said
And this shakes us up and distorts our calmness
If there is a way, we just need to avoid them completely
I had narccist around me too
They completely think the world revolves around them
Their ego is often bruise at the slighest action or reaction from someone
The one i had usually felt people were concerned about what he does, when everyone is just going about their own business
What he failed to understand was that everyone had battles to fight, and no one is paying him that much attention
At the slighest hurt or provocation, he shifts blames, and makes the other party guilty
I can relate. These people have no remedy than to date themselves. They're as terrible as they come