Can you remain calm even in the face of turbulent? Practicing Equanimity is the key
The world is full of turmoil and at some point, we need to exercise equanimity to come out victorious. As you mature, you will notice that you should not have given unnecessary attention to a lot of things
Paying attention to problems gives it existence and credibility. You draw unnecessary attention to a mistake when you try to fix it. At times, you make it worst.
Instead of trying to fix most problems, disdain them, show contempt for it. It is your choice to allow things to bother you. You can decide not to notice that human that is trying to offend you. A situation in your life can be considered unworthy of your interest.
Soon you will realize that what you do not react to, cannot drag you into any engagement Consider most things oblivion by ignoring them, and secretly plan to do away with them. It is not all the time that you show that something bothers you.
The dynamic of all interactions is actions and reactions. Acknowledging other people or a petty problem opens you to their influence. If you ignore things, you cancel them out and show they have no dealings with you. And there will be nothing they can do
The key to remaining calm is to disdain the things you cannot have. That is because desires create a paradoxical effect. The more you want things, the more they elude you.
So are you telling me if an army man slap me I I should not react? I should be looking like a donkey is that what you are saying?
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Crazy fellow....no offense
Would you even think of reacting if an army man slaps you? Answer genuinely then, I will give you my reply...lol
If an army man slap me once i will retaliate and give him two slaps then we go to court.
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Are you serious right now?
We shudder in the sight of army around here
We wouldn't even think of retaliating
Not to talk of going to court 😂😂
It is because you guys are scared, shake off every form of fear and give if back to the giver.
Yeah I agree
But there is this lesson i have always known that said if you know you are the disadvantage, do not fight for honor sake
We shorten it by saying "he who leaves a fight, lives to fight another day"
On a serious note though from your article I tend to remain in the face of turbulence or adversity. My way of responding to things I don't expect that could be of difficult consequences.
The whole thing later settles and sinks in few moments or hours later giving rise to finding solutions that could put me in a stressful situation if it is out of my control.
My previous comments were aimed at pulling your legs like you did to me the other days 😃 and I feel like I succeeded.
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You succeeded. Don't worry I will retaliate one of these days 😁
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Beautiful piece!!!
This reminds me of a funny story in school where a guy was getting bullied. He got slapped on one cheek and so he turned his other cheek to the bully... and got slapped again.
Bullying wouldn't be so funny if it wasn't for the fact that the incident made everyone become friends even now more than 20 years later.
Lol thats a cool story become friends and still friends.
Bullying is very bad though, recently a girl was bullied at school here in SA, it was recorded and shared on social media she ended up committing suicide when she got home.
Bullying is terrible and the recording and sharing on Twitter/Facebook makes it so much worse than what it was back in the 80s and 90s. At least then you only had to relive the experience one and in your head.
Also there was no worries of other people seeing the video. Peers may have comments about the video but society in general takes a dim view of bullies.
We are looking at one of the negatives of social media, things that are supposed to remain private lands on social media where it trends and consequently lead to something else.
We currently have a disclaimer everyday on radio and television that discourages us from posting things that could end another person's life
They emphasize by saying we have blood on our hands if someone dies as a result of our posts and tweets
Its great to know that the bullying turned them into great friends
But in these recent times, bullying no longer stays in our head
Social media has turned everything around as you told @joetunex
Growing up with a narcissist, I only realized much later that a very big part of the problem was that they thought everything revolved around them. Anything and everything can be thought of as a slight or insult.
The truth of the matter is that most people care very little about other people except for how they make them feel.
I grew up with a narcissist too, and a surefire way to make such a person fly into a rage is to tell them precisely "the world doesn't revolve around you." I have a talent for pissing off narcissists, even when I don't mean to. The momentary pleasure of flushing their proverbial toilet is seldom worth the grief I get in return.
Narcissists are compulsively defensive, fight every battle that they can, and nothing is over until they win; normal people tend to give up on lost causes. I think what @edystringz is trying to say is "don't be like them, not every battle is worth fighting."
I know what you mean. After it got to a certain point and when I knew that I wasn't beholden to their power, I let them know that they were full of crap.
For sure. Completely agree that discretion is the better part of valor. No point getting bruises when they're not necessary.
I agree to this as well. Thanks to you guys for contributing
I appreciate
That is true, @steampunkkaja, they are defensive, never want to take the fall for anything
If we react to them, we open ourselves to their influence like I said
And this shakes us up and distorts our calmness
If there is a way, we just need to avoid them completely
I had narccist around me too
They completely think the world revolves around them
Their ego is often bruise at the slighest action or reaction from someone
The one i had usually felt people were concerned about what he does, when everyone is just going about their own business
What he failed to understand was that everyone had battles to fight, and no one is paying him that much attention
At the slighest hurt or provocation, he shifts blames, and makes the other party guilty
I can relate. These people have no remedy than to date themselves. They're as terrible as they come
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You're right, this is quite a workable step towards achieving some calmness - disdaining the things you cannot have and ignoring trials and troubles. It is the same approach I try to have, just that I don't try to develop the emotions that go with disdainment like hatred. I try to be unfeeling about things that I can't have: no love, no hate, just unfeeling about it.
Maybe this is why we connected easily
I do this too, not feeling anything love or hate about it
Staying neural helps reduce the heat of the situation
Thats because once you feel something, there is a tendency to be overwhelmed
I just remember someone wrote in one of the entries for the week and he mentioned something I would love to share with you
He said we should not repress ourselves from feeling certain emotions, because we are humans
If we don't it takes away our being human
Ignore and the problems will not feel important. It is real.
And following the theme of the slap, I think that in my school days ... I would not have hesitated to jump and pull the hair. haha.
I am glad that you agree
hahhahhahaaa...I understand, back then in school, no one wanted to be seen as the weak one.....hhehehehe
Thank you for coming around dear
Ha ha. Yes. And also at that time, my impulses dominated me. Once, a girl pushed me ... I jumped and we hit each other. I remember my mother telling me: I am not raising any kind of animal. School is for studying. !
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I can imagine mum saying that but now I dont need to be told, that you have learned to be more calm than anyone else.....lol
That's right. I guess the main problem is finding the way to get to that key. Sometimes it is in front of many people, who can't (or don't want to) see it.
I agree with you .
The key is always staring at us in the face but most times, we rarely see it
Thanks for contributing