Help Me Help Someone!
If you have ever been on the verge of depression, confusion and frustration then you probably would know how it feels.
I know we all have individual problems and challenges. I always tell people that we all have our battles and there is no one without one challenge or the other.
But it's sad finding someone with a more pressing challenge or one that is worse than yours, and you just can't help but feel for the person. You wanna sympathize with them or even help them.
I have met a bunch of those types of people and I am always moved by compassion to help them but most I just can't because don't even know where to start or how to help them.
It's not about wanting to help a person but how to help the person that matters most. Most times we are moved with compassion to help people and we wish we can even when some situations are seemingly impossible.
I Want To Help But HOW Do I Do It?
As easy as this may sound, I am disturbed. Yes, I am worried about this person.
I want to introduce the person to online blogging since I have been hearing stories of how it has changed people's lives and I have also been a beneficiary.
I told the person about it. Yes about hive in particular but apart from the financial challenges, the person has a serious problem and the problem is that the person doesn't even have a device to start or begin with, even if the only option left was to set up an account here for the person.
In such cases or situations, how can I be of help? I can't keep watching the person struggle and suffer in silence. I am sure it took a lot of courage to open up which most people wouldn't do and to the extent of wishing there was anything legal to do that can generate income.
Guys if you have better options or a way out for such cases or situations then please don't hesitate to share. Your opinion and contributions can go a long way to help arrive at something, thank you!
I am really looking forward to all your opinions and responses. Thank you!
3rd September 2021
I love that you care so much about others.
I think the best thing you can do for this person is to not feel sorry for them, and to show that you don’t feel sorry for them. Pity keeps people in an infinite loop of disempowerment, meanwhile, if you see the positive possibilities for someone, it can encourage them to see those too, if they are ready. Pity can even become a drug because people come to believe it's the only way they can receive love and support.
Focus on the positive aspects of them and show appreciation for those things.
If they don’t have a phone and you care that much maybe you can help them make an account together on your phone.
Just be careful, because sometimes your desire to help will backfire, as in the end, people will only be able to handle what they are ready for. If you push them to do things that they don’t want to do or don’t make boundaries, you may find yourself being taken advantage of or part of some unnecessary drama.
If you help them open an account, let me know. I will check it out
Yeah, you see right. And more reason why I was being careful about this.
On one side I was thinking of helping the person set up an account while I lend the person my device to make articles for some days the person will be chance and maybe I am not making use of the device for the time being, but I was also having a second thought about the implications and outcome of it all. What if it doesn't turn out right or as I expected? but if I arrive at something eventually, and help the person with the account set up, then sure I will let you know.
Thank you for willing to lend a hand.
They're moments like that when you feel like you're going through a lot only to see another person that is going through worse. It's the normal nature of life.
I think you should take things a little slow, and have a very good think. Don't try to do more than you can handle so they'll not be issues in the end. Most importantly always pray for that person too. It'll go a long way.
I am certain prayers do go a long way in setting things and giving solutions to the most difficult situations. Thank you and I will keep it calm.
I think I had the same issues with some guy who I got talking with and was curious to know what I do for a living which I told him.
At a point, he said he would love to join but unfortunately, he doesn't have a device to do that.
The truth is I felt pity for him but at the same time, I wouldn't love to start what I can not finish. So I told him I could not help him.
The question is, how sure are you that what the person needs right now, is a device to join hive? How sure are you that if you had a way to provide the person with a device that he or she would love to do this?
I have seen guys who know about this blogging platform and with the right device, yet they feel lazy to do it. They don't have anything to do and need money but yet, they can not do this.
Most situations that comes our way, aren't in our hands to help but they come our way to motivate those people. I hope you know people turn down helping people, we were not called to help everyone, that is why the spirit of discernment came.
I have seen spirit-filled men turn down helping someone, not because they didn't want to help but because they are not the right person to help. Just because we were asked to help doesn't mean we have to help all cases that come our way.
Don't let your pity close your eyes to other things you can do for such people, let them get a job if they are really serious about this first and you can be their accountability partner. In a long run, you can tell if there are serious-minded persons or not, there you can decide to invest financially if you can.
Like selfhelp4trolls said, most of our help always backfires back to us because we did it wrongly and thought it was the right thing.
Last but not the least, praying matters. It will help generate other ideas and thought that you can use to help that person without feeling hurt or regretting you did because humans will always be human. If you know what I mean.
I don't know you, and I don't know how this advice sounds but this is who I am and what I think. Just a thought from a random girl.
Have a lovely day dear friend.
Okay I was about typing out my opinion when I saw your comment and all I can say is thank you, you’ve said all I wanted to say and even added more. 😅
Lol, it's obvious we think alike on that matter. Thank you for thanking me ☺☺
Hmmm. I must say, you did justice to this.
And I can't agree any less. I just hope and pray the person gets out of the situation sooner or much later and I pray for wisdom to make wise decisions.
Thanks for such a splendid response.
We just have to apply wisdom in all we do so we don't fall victim to some humans. You are welcome. Have a lovely day.
Compassion is a great thing, but we should know when to help and when to stay away.
I have seen many cases in which friends trying to help complicate things more than they help with their surface level understanding of the problem.
Deep seated emotional issues need professional help and things don't get to normal in a hurry.
As a friend, as someone who cares listen. Help in any material way you can.
Support the person in his/her positive endeavors.
Understand, don't be in a hurry to give advice.
Ask question, don't judge.
Don't tell the person about your big problems just then.
Just be there for there person and that would be a lot.
Refer the person to a professional for help.
I am just taking everything slowly, being there in the best way I can, giving a listening ear, and handing the rest to God.
Thanks for this response. I truly appreciate it.
Wonderful! I am sure God will lead you in this. Amen to your prayers.
Helping others Stan on their feet is very humane. Some people prefer watching people depend on them for everything.
I can relate to this. The feeling that comes afterwards is always depressing. You wanted to help but you were not in a position to help. Very depressing.
Hmmm, my dear. I am glad you can relate to this.
Very depressing!
But I do hope the person gets all the help even if it doesn't come directly from me cause I wouldn't wish for anyone to be in that situation.
You have a great heart. Don't let it go dark for any reason.