For Better, For Worse
With each day that passes by, it just feels like the concept of getting married just keeps on losing its value. Almost like the older we get, the more we realize that maybe getting a husband or a wife just isn't worth it like our parents made it look like when we were growing up.
The other day, I recently made friends with a lady, and while we were getting to know each other, she mentioned to me that if things do go her way and she ends up becoming successful in life, she plans on not getting married and would rather adopt a kid, because apparently to her, all she needs a partner for is his money and to make babies.
Which brings me to my first question. Is that really what marriage is all about, or is there more to it?
I also have another female friend who had texted me one night around 1am, crying about her relationship and how she feels like her boyfriend no longer values her because she's been living with him for a while now, something we Nigerians call 'See finish'.
Which brings me to my second question. How are we expected to get married if we can't even bear living with someone we claim to love for a few months?
All of these things and a lot more are reasons why it seems to me that maybe this current generation just might have a different plan and won't follow the usual procedure the people before it does.
And I know that just because a few of my friends have a different perspective on the issue doesn't mean that the majority of the people our age also feel that way, but I actually do think they do. As a matter of fact, I feel like the main reason many people here even decide to get married is just to please their parents and guardians.
Most people would prefer remaining single and not being “tied” to one person for the rest of their lives. And this is why after a while they begin having troubles in their marriages, which quickly leads to divorce, because as much as they loved that person in the beginning, living forever with them just isn't something they can live with.
But again, I could be wrong and stand to be corrected. This is just how I feel about the issue, and honestly, I hope I'm wrong.
This generation it's different from the others must of my friends are unmarried and ask me why I decided to be married my answer usually is it's because I think marriage could be good for a couple and we have more legal protections, but marriage is not easy and o think most of the new generation are not ready for standing the difficult of a marriage.
That's the truth. Most people only look at the good sides of marriages and not the bad side that also comes with it too. This is why whenever they experience any little obstacle, they run to get a divorce.
I think love and commitment is gonna survive, but traditional rules may change. 🤔 Do u think the idea of marriage will continue to lose importance in the next generation, or will it adapt to modern needs?
I feel a lot of people these days prefer having kids but not settling with just one partner. Many of them see marriage as a form of confinement and they want to be free.
I have seen many not wanting kids, I don't know where this is going to end. The society made the marriage look so hard that people started to fear.
If everyone think like that then, human will extinct from the world.
I don't think that will be the case. Some of them do want kids, they just don't want to be tied to one person.