Am I a Bad Friend?
In our world of today, people make use of the word "Friend" so casually that they forget that not every random person that they know is a friend. A friend is someone who's really close to you, someone who you share some level of secret with, someone who you can rely on to help during your time of trouble. You can know a lot of people but have few friends.
I happen to be among those sets of people who knows a lot of people but has few friends and that is why I always try to cherish my friendships and possibly be there for them in the best way I can when they need me.
But I have a situation.
I have this very good friend of mine who I'm very close to. We always hang around whenever we're together but you see, due to the fact that he's my friend, I kind of know the way he thinks, the way he does stuff and he happens to be one of those guys who doesn't like to be advised or gets upset when someone advises him especially when what that person is saying is completely opposite what he believes or wants to do.
Knowing this I try as much as possible to respect his kind of person and don't try to get him upset by not offering any advise. But of recent, he's beginning to make some really bad decisions that I know will hurt him in the future and I really want to tell him, to caution him about what he's doing but then it's all going to end up with us having a huge fight and I don't want that because I hate it, I have a lot of things to do with my time and fighting someone else ain't one of it.
Now I know that one of the things of being a friend is the ability to tell your friends the truth even if they don't want to hear it or won't act on it (and I plan on doing just that) but then, shouldn't I respect his decision on not wanting to be advised and just let him do what he wants to do. It's shouldn't be my fault that he doesn't listen and hopefully if he does get hurt (not physically) in the future, he will learn that things aren't done that way and maybe, just maybe he will learn to listen to others.
@prayzz being a friend, its the responsibility to tell him whether he likes or not.
That happens in friendship but these fights or arguments doesn't last long. But you will be satisfied that did your part.
Yeah I know, I plan on telling him.. I'm just thinking that maybe he needs to learn a lesson in other for him to value my advise more.
@prayzz if you have shared your thoughts then only you would be able to make him realize.... after all choice is yours.
I have been in same situation multiple times....
Hmm.. Well this is true.
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You won't be a good friend if you overlook the issue, talk to him about it. That's what friends do. Who knows, he might actually listen. Even if he doesn't, at least you tried and in the future you won't be blamed for any of his misfortune because you did warn him.
I still won't be blamed if I don't talk to him but I fully understand your point.. Like the saying goes "You can take a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink"
I just have to do my part as a friend.
There are so many ways to get blamed dear. Someone might not have to say it to you but as a good friend your conscience will likely do that. Trust me there's nothing as tormenting as the guilt of conscience concerning something you likely had the ability to help someone avoid but you didn't.
Exactly.