What should we look at for in a partner when trying to get married
Honestly, I feel one of the leading causes of divorce in this present generation of people getting married is because people no longer take their time to study someone before popping the big question. All it takes for most of us to fall in love these days is a good looking lady with nice curves and we're sold, while for the women, most of them just need the guy to be rich. And this is why most of them (the ladies) end up getting abused because the man knows why you're there and he knows that as long as he's still rich, he can do whatever he wants.
Of course there's nothing wrong with getting married to a rich guy, I just feel like that shouldn't be the only qualities you should look out for as a woman.
Back in the day, things were done a lot differently over here. I remember my dad telling I and my siblings of how his mom had helped him asked around about my mom, to know what kind of lady she was and the family she was from before he even approached her. And this was because back then, family was everything and no one would want to associate with you if you came from a bad family. And seeing how superstitious we were (and still are) over here in Africa, most men wouldn't even get married to ladies whose brother (or family member) was a thief, not because they're scared of the lady being a thief themselves but because they don't want their kids to end up becoming one because we have this crazy mentality that it could be transferred somehow. So all of that made a lot of people to act straight because no one wanted to bring shame or disgrace to their family name.
Anyways, that was how serious it was to get a good wife back then, also there were a lot of endurance in marriages (from both sides) back then unlike the marriages of today where everyone wants to walk away the moment their spouse yells at them, and this was partly because divorce wasn't something that was welcomed in this part of the world back then, it was almost seen like a taboo of some sort.
Unfortunately for you and I who aren't married yet, we have to do things the modern way and adapt to the modern things because this isn't the days of our fathers and that is why I want to know if there are certain things you look at for in a partner when getting married to them, certain things that they must have to make a good spouse or do you just work with faith, get married and hope you got the good one amongst the many bad ones out there?
One more thing..
Talking about endurances in marriages, do you think that idea should still be encouraged even in today's world where there are a lot of news of assaults and abuses here and there... Should a partner endure when their spouse misbehaves or should they run away at the first sight of a red flag?
Haha 😂, this your ending part got me laughing out loud..lolz, they should run away oo haha
Those days, marriage was full of endurance.. you see women tolerating alot from men just to keep their marriages unlike now that civilization has come, people run to court and get justice
There are some things that can be endured but not domestic violence..I will run without looking back
If you ask me this question before I get married, I will tell you that what I look for in a man is a caring, patience, loving man and financially okay too because money is also needed in marriage but not the foundation of which I stand in marriage. The physical curve and co can vanish at a point in the marriage and so, it will become a big problem to the couple.
I actually do agree with you on the endurance part, I guess back in the day a lot of women went through a lot trying to endure.. But there have been a lot of divorce cases out there that has nothing to do with domestic violence.. I feel like everyone wants to go through a divorce for every little thing these days..
And thank you for this, I agree with you 100%.
Its important to find a person that fit you long term, it seems like it can be hard these days.
/Lasse
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He never scammed anybody, you are an complete idiot!
Really? Unlike you I can do basic lazy ass internet search engine research. Or you are a liar. Well, yeah, you being a liar is far more likely. You'd have to be putting in effort to remain as ignorant as you are and effort ain't what you are about..
I think checking the background of a family before marriage is very very important and it has been seen in most cases person gains most of the habits of family members and it's possible both genetically and for the family environment.
It depends on the situation. I think the overall behavior matters a lot. If the misbehaves continue with time I think it's time to quit.
Checking the family history is still a huge thing here till date, although not everyone do it now because they're "in love"...