What Do you think?
In the world we're living in today, everyone has to be careful about the things they say anywhere in other to avoid getting canceled or backlash from both adults and kids who shouldn't even be on the internet. The whole world is acting so woke these days that it's now irritating. Almost like your opinion doesn't matter anymore if it doesn't align with the general public opinion.
Well I think that sucks because it does. Luckily for me, I'm not a celebrity so there's no fear of getting canceled, at least not yet, even though I still try not to engage in provoking conversations because the last thing I want to do is spend hours online arguing with a total stranger about something that most definitely wouldn't even put food on my table.
Anyways, on today's topic, I do feel it's kinda like a controversial one because I know there are some people who will disagree with me and it's fine. We learn everyday and that is one of the reasons why I write some of the things I write here so that I can get other peoples opinion on the issue and learn a different way to look at the issue.
Earlier today, I was having a conversation with myself (I do that a lot when I'm alone) when I started thinking about friendship and how I feel like friendship between two people should exist based on what they both can benefit from each other. Like it's cool being friends with someone because you like them and they're nice or whatever but then, a huge aspect of friendship should be based on the ideas, the connections and stuff that the other person brings to the table.
The thought came to me because I was thinking to myself that if I had gone to a school where the sons and daughters of governors and commissioners of the country go to, then my friend group would have been the bomb right now when it comes to connections and other beneficial stuff for both parties.
It was just a random thought that started to make more sense the more I thought about it. But then again, what happens to the friendship when those benefits are no longer there? So you see, it's a bit confusing. Anyways, I want to hear from you guys, when you're trying to make friends with new people, what do you look out for? Do you first of all think about how beneficial that friendship can be to you or do you just go based on vibes?
If you do look out for benefits, what are those things you look out for?
Sometimes it's not about the benefits, even when we're talking about our newer batch of friends who we've gotten to know as adults.
Yes, some childhood friendships are somewhat indestructible; even if there's a huge gap in terms of communication and meet ups, the friendship still stays intact after years and years. It's just there because of the solid memories we have together, the time we spent and the things we learned as we grew together.
Now, a time might come when you don't see eye to eye anymore, even if you were once the closest of friends. Times change, we change, our goals and paths change, after that a bit of distance is created, much necessary distance. Yet, benefit or no benefit, the friendship and respect is always somewhat present, especially when it comes to brotherhood
Hmm true. So I guess friendship shouldn't be based on benefits and I now see some sense in that. Friends stay friends even if they're not benefitting anything from one another... But I will like to know what you look out for when making new friends though.
Anyone who passes the "vibe check", but let's say there are "levels" to my friendship; barriers one has to pass, not a test, it's just about natural synergy. First impressions, how we gel, our mindset and the way we view and take on life. A lot of little details piled up into one, and after quite a few chats and meet ups, you should be able to figure if you want this person in your life or not.
I know a lot of people from many different communities and age groups, but when it comes to having "real friends" trust is the one and only trait I look for. The people you don't mind taking care of, you have their backs and they have yours. 🥃☮️
Yeah I totally agree with you here 💯. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts on the matter bro.
Anytime brother. 💪
Cheers 🥃
I don't bother about the benefits while making friends, I don't like friends with benefits because when the benefit gets lost you won't find that friendship bond too, the thread that was connecting the both end gets lost. In my case friendships grow naturally, all I am concerned about is not inhaling anything negative from them so I stay careful about those while mixing.
Well that's true. If the reason why you guys became friends is because you're benefitting something from that person, you most likely would leave when that thing is no longer there.
But when choosing our friends, shouldn't there be something we should look out for, something that will make us want to be friends with them?
I don't have any specific things to filter with, they come naturally, maybe a common game we played, a common friend who introduced us, maybe a school bench we shared together, and gradually from there, we start to communicate and find our common interests to strengthen our bond.
I am getting your point, I might be looking for someone who won't be influencing me toward unethical things, and won't be toxic, helpful, and like-minded. It may vary from person to person.
Hmm alright.. I guess it's just like flowing with the vibes you're getting from that person. If the person turns out to be the kind of person you want as a friend, then you guys will become friends.. If he's not, you will withdraw yourself.
Yeap!
Tbh there are things which I don't like and don't share in online life. There's a valid reason for that. As sometimes its better to keep online and real life separate.
When it comes to friends, I suppose nothing can be done in that area. As friends will be there for us in every corner of our life. Some will stay and some will not but that I must say those who are going to stay without anything attached they are the real ones and we dont need a herd of them but more precisely close group does sounds even better ;)
While I suppose, on the topic related to keeping our mouth close or open, it does kinda depends. As I would not really argue with someone who does not actually has the morality of thinking or someone who thinks they are always right. Because there's no point in arguing. And nowadays thanks to being socializing with all sorts of people the sense of winning is disappearing. As in that regard the sense of learning and improving has increased. I would say that's a positive growth for me ;)
Hmm.. I agree with you on having a small group of friends. I guess one mistake most people do is that they want to be friends with everyone when in reality, the best you should do is know a lot of people, but have a small group of friends.