What Are Your Thoughts
We all know that when it comes to relationships, we learn everyday as there are no written manual or instructions anywhere on how relationships should be handled.
Well, I was with a couple of my friends earlier today and we were talking about relationships (because we had nothing better to do) and one of my friends who happens to be the only one who is currently in a relationship amongst us, asked a question that apparently has been causing issues between him and his girlfriend.
According to him, before he got in a relationship with his girlfriend, he was someone who had a lot of female friends which we all knew about because he's the kind of guy who is always the life of the party. So he has a lot of friends, most especially girls. And back then when he was single, that wasn't a problem to him but ever since he got into a relationship, his girlfriend has been getting upset with him whenever she sees him talking to any of the girls, be it on the phone or face to face.
He wanted to know if he was doing anything wrong by keeping all of his female friends and not getting rid of them like his girlfriend had insisted, before she feels they are a threat to their relationship.
When he asked this question, I immediately told him that the female friends weren't the problem, but his girlfriend not trusting him is. Although he didn't say if he had been caught doing anything immoral by his girlfriend with any of the girls in the past, so I'm just going to assume he hasn't and she's just being insecure and feels that other girls becoming friends with her boyfriend is a threat.
Surprisingly, another of our friend had a different opinion and took sides with my friend's girlfriend. He had asked my friend how he would feel if the reverse had been the case and his girlfriend was the one with multiple male friends who were always calling her and stuff. He (the one who had a girlfriend) had said he wouldn't be upset but the other guys had disagreed with him, saying he was lying and that is why I'm bringing this here today.
Do you guys think his girlfriend is being reasonable asking him to cut off communication with these other girls or she's just taking it too far and being insecure?
Hmmmmm
I wouldn't say the guy should cut of with the communication with other girls completely but there should be a boundary if truly he is in a serious relationship with the girl . Also the girl should learn how to trust his man and the man too should be transparent for a healthy relationship.
Whatever discussion your friend is having with other ladies should be formal, there should be limitation to avoid another story.
Personally, I keep both female and male friends even as a married woman but with boundaries...I don't discuss private issues with my male friends just formal, learning from each other and growing better irrespective of gender
I've learnt a thing or two from this comment.
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Glad to hear this ZooBoss🤗
This was exactly my thought too.. I guess he just has to look for a way to make her believe that nothing is going to happen between himself and his female friends.
I wouldn't advise that he cut off his friends. I can understand the girls insecurity or jealousy. Some girls need constant reassurance and that's probably the case in this situation. He needs to keep reminding her that she's the one he loves and thatdespite how much he loves her, he still needs to have other friends.
I would say though that he needs to reduce his interactions with women, because that'll just make his girl more jealous or insecure and that's not good for anyone.
If he cuts off all his friends, what if he breaks up with his girlfriend at some point? Because that's enirely possible. As much we love our partners, we need to be foresighted enough to make decisions that won't leave us devastated and alone if we ever break up. Cutting off all his female friends will mean that if his relationship ever doesn't work out, he has no females friends also. A double loss.
Well I get your point but I honestly don't think that he has to constantly reassure her that he loves her.. That honestly doesn't sound healthy to me because if you're always doubting my love for you, then we shouldn't even be together.
It’s complicated. Her needing reassurance doesn’t really mean she doesn’t trust you. It’s probably just about her being insecure and nothing to do with her not trusting that you love her. She trusts you all right, she just needs to hear you tell her certain things frequently to reassure her.
The nature of a girlfriend seems possessive most of the time. Within a limit, I think it expresses love but I think most of the time girlfriends cross the limit and I think it's domination and I feel it's better not to have such kind of girlfriend. If I were in your friend's place I would show her the exit way of relationship. Maybe it's a reason also I don't have a girlfriend😂😂 till now.
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This comment made me laugh but I also see your point.. If she can't trust him, then she shouldn't be with him.
Yes, I love to think simply and for that reason, I showed the simple solution to that situation😂😂. You can suggest it to your friend also if you want.
Personally, I think it’s the okay for the guy to have female friends but the question is what is your relationship with these female friends of yours?
Women are jealous beings and same applies to men. At times you can’t help but feel insecure about your partner and I think that’s totally okay but it shouldn’t be an everyday thing. If your partner is not jealous then he or she doesn’t love you.
I think your friend needs to limit how he interacts with his female friends and also set some boundaries. But his girlfriend can’t decide for him who befriends and who he doesn’t. It doesn’t work that way because relationships come and go but some friendships are forever.