Waving the white flag

I've written some articles here in the past talking about how life wasn't meant to be hard and that we humans are the ones who complicate it. Then I had gone further to talk about how learning to talk things out like adults instead of engaging in meaningless quarrel with people could actually go a long way and have a positive effect on us especially when it comes to our relationship with others.

And one thing that made me to see life this way was due to something tragic that happened in my life and made me realized that life is too short for us to spend any bit of it hating on someone when we could actually spend that time spreading love to one another. And as someone who loves to practice what I preach, I've put all of this into use during real life situations and so far so good, it has all been working well for me until recently.

I recently had an argument with someone, it was something that happened at the spur of the moment and just couldn't be helped. I got really upset because I felt like I had been wronged by this person, so I had angrily left in order to avoid any of us causing more damage by saying something that we don't actually mean to each other.

The next day, after I had cooled down, I had thought about the whole thing and maybe because I now was calm, I saw no reason for the fight, at least it shouldn't have gotten that serious because it wasn't that much of a serious issue, so I had done the one thing I know how to do best, I had gone ahead to try to make peace.

I had called them and tried to explain to them my reason for getting upset the previous day, hoping that if they saw things from my point of view then maybe they could have a better understanding as to why I had reacted the way I did the previous day and maybe they too might explain their own side of the story for me to see things from their own point of view too.

Experience has taught me that when we do this, one of us (if not both parties) tend to see where they had gotten the whole thing wrong and then try to make amends, but that wasn't the case. Instead, the other party involved had mocked me and didn't show any sign of remorse for their actions. The way they reacted to the whole thing not only shocked me but it also pissed me off because here I am, waving the white flag and all they were doing was laugh at me.

I felt I had tried my best and that enough was enough, so I brought down my white flag because it was obvious they didn't want peace. It's been more than a month since this happened and we both haven't spoken a word to each other since then, and now I'm having a rethink of the whole thing and just wondering if maybe I went about something the wrong way and if ignoring them and just minding my business was the right thing to do or if I should give peace another chance and raise the white flag for a second time.

_{photo by Jackson Simmer}