Trust When Broken

I do know that trust when broken, is really hard to amend but this days, people make it really difficult to want to do that.

Why do you forgive someone if you know you will never trust them again the way you used to before they committed that offence?

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I have this friend of mine who got caught cheating once by his girlfriend a while back and even though she made a scene when she caught him, she chose not to leave the relationship which was a huge shock for most of us considering how she had reacted when she caught him cheating.

It turned out that her boyfriend had apologised and she had somehow agreed to forgive him and continue the relationship, which is really cool because I know I would not. But one thing we've come to notice is the lack of trust she now has for the guy. Whenever he goes out, or he's about to go out, she always wants to know where he's going to and who he's going to meet.

He even told us that there had been a couple of times when he wakes up in the middle of the night and sees her going through his phone, but he doesn't react or say anything to her, he just goes back to sleep without her knowing. He says he no longer does anything suspicious or cheats on his girlfriend, but he's beginning to get tired of all this new CIA thing going on.

He knows that he's the reason for it, because she wouldn't be that way if he hadn't messed up in the first place, but yet, he still feels like if she claims to have forgiven him, then she should have to trust him and stop being all suspicious.

If you ask me what I think, I do feel the same thing too. I know that the one thing every relationship needs to survive is trust and if one of you no longer trusts the other person, then it's best you call it quit, rather than waste both of your time.

If the girlfriend hasn't gotten over the fact that he cheated and she still has some doubts in her mind, I feel she should either talk to him about it in other to clear her doubts or just do herself a favour and end the whole thing. If she doesn't, then the boyfriend should. Because the truth is that they both can't keep living like that and if the relationship isn't working out, the only reasonable thing to do is call it quit.