The Nova Effect
A few days ago, someone very important to me had walked out of my life, no goodbyes, nothing. I feel like they had walked out because they feel that they could come and leave whenever they like, not caring about how I feel about it because they think that how I feel is unimportant.
It has been like that for a while but it will no longer be like that. You see, unlike the previous times where when they walk out, I feel down and sometimes a bit depressed, I plan on having a nova effect with this one.
Trying not to sound entirely like Google, the meaning of a nova effect is basically telling us that good things can come from bad things and vice versa, like a tragedy of good luck and I plan on turning this into something good.
You see, earlier today, I found myself thinking about the entire situation and rather than feel sad like I normally would, I found myself making plans of how I intend to make my life better, plans that I plan on implementing as early as tomorrow.
Somewhere along the line I even caught myself feeling a bit excited that everything that happened, happened. Because in as much as I don't like people leaving my life, especially people who are close to me, not all of them will stay, and I don't always have to bring myself down everytime someone important leaves my life, instead I will take that sadness and turn it into something positive like I'm doing today.
So rather than stare at my phone, hoping they would call or text, I'm just going to wish them well and just behave like they don't exist, because I will be focusing all of that energy on myself and basically just trying to become the better version of myself each and every day.
And yes, I know it really won't be this easy, especially for someone like me who gets attached to people easily, but everything is possible if you're determined enough to do it.
Hopefully, in a week or two, I will be able to come give a progress report here, and I hope it will be a good one.
In times like this, I'd be so glad that I move on just as quickly as I do. It may not be a trait to be proud of, but it seems helpful at times.
I like what you've chosen to do with the time that you could otherwise have spent running things over in your head. By the way, not all friendships last a lifetime. Some are for a season, so it's only wise to enjoy what you have with people and appreciate the role they play in your life and if it comes to it, bid them farewell when it' gets to that.
It's not easy as stated, but I trust you'll fare well anyway.
There are times where I actually wish I'm like this, where I can just switch off that feeling and get a move on with my life.. Things would have been a lot easier for me.
I'm learning to do this more now. To enjoy the moment with them and just be thankful that we did what we did, when we did, when they eventually do leave my life.
Nova effect. I just heard about it from you.
It seems you are missing someone close to you in the time while writing the post. isn't it?