The Guy Who's Never Sad
Last night was one of those nights where I felt like I was touched by something supernatural and somehow that split-second feeling made me see life a little bit differently.
About a year ago, I knew someone who used to live in my hostel who rarely gets upset. Everything about this guy fascinated me. Before he moved out, he was a close friend of mine and every now and then, he would tell me stories of how terrible certain people have been towards him and yet he always found a way to end the story in a positive note, laughing at the end as if he didn't just tell me an annoying story of someone who cheated him in the most despicable way.
I always felt that he was just a gullible person who found it hard to speak for himself, but I soon realized that wasn't it, he just was a good soul who's always trying to see the good in people no matter how terrible they've been to him.
I tried being like him, but after about a day, I came to the conclusion that wouldn't work because we live in a world where people are constantly looking for ways to take advantage of you, and being the kind of guy that I am, I will never let that happen to me just because I'm trying to see the good in other people.
But last night, I had read a post online that talked about us taking life slowly, walking slowly and stopped trying to be in a haste all the time. I immediately took that advise and somehow, as I laid on my bed still reading through that post, it felt like the whole world got slowed down and suddenly I could see things clearly.
My mind wandered off to someone who had offended earlier that day and suddenly what they had done that pissed me off, no longer felt like anything anymore and I found myself wondering why I even got upset for something that wasn't even important in the first place. So I had picked up my phone and sent them a text, apologising to them if I had overreacted and also telling them that I was cool with them.
I had to send that text at that very moment because I knew that this new feeling made me feel at peace with myself and sadly I didn't know how long that was going to last. I also called a couple of my friends I haven't spoken to in a while and a lot of them were surprised I called, some were even more shocked I called for no reason at that hour.
To be honest, I feel the way I felt last night is the same way my friend feels everyday and if I'm correct about that, he's in a state of mind I would love to be in because it makes life easier and a lot more happier for me. But unfortunately due to the kind of world we live in, I wouldn't want to remain in that kind of state for too long, even though it would automatically make me guy who's never sad.
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Thank you.
I feel I can relate to your friend in this account. At first, I hated that feeling, the title "nice guy" and the comment "you are a good person." My reasons were not different from yours. People tend to try to take advantage of me. I hated being the one picked upon.
Then, I realized I could still have that feeling while guarding myself from predators. So, I began a journey of actively training my mind to be conscious of people's schemes while I kept my heart steady on my view that "there is good in everyone."
@prayzz, if you seek to keep that feeling you had that day, you could do that as you protect yourself from fraud. I am still working on achieving this balance between being "nice" and "smart." Frankly, it has not been easy, but from my experience, it is rewarding and freeing, and the feeling, as you described, is peaceful.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Yeah I actually thought about it, about trying to see the good in everyone and still not get taken advantage of. It's something that I believe can work, I just have to look for a way to perfectly balance both.
Thank you for reading.
Trying to find positivity is a good thing and we should try to practice it. I also try to find it but I think it should not be our weakness and allow others to take advantage.
At the same time if at any time we feel we have done wrong or overreacted then we should not hesitate to apologize for it.
In a bid to be good and do good, most people lose balance and let other people step on them. This is what I'm scared of happening and that is why I'm trying to find a perfect balance to it because the last thing I want is anyone taking undue advantage of me. And yeah you're right, we should be bold enough to apologise after doing wrong.