The Coolest Guy Online
One of the famous attributes of being an introvert is that you become very good at chatting with people online, because the internet offers this freedom to relax, think before responding back to any question thrown your way, unlike face to face conversations where you have to think on the spot, which to an introvert feels like being placed under pressure.
Back in the day, I've always seen myself as someone who was very good at communicating with people online, I was so good that my friends would often give me their phones to help them chat with people online, mostly to keep the conversation going whenever they run out of things to say.
But this was a long time ago, I've never really been a fan of Facebook or any social media that easily gave you access to chat with people you're not familiar with (unlike WhatsApp where you have to have that person's number and most times know them in person), and I kinda distanced myself from Facebook when it became a hot zone for online scammers, not because I was scared of getting scammed but because I didn't want to be seen as one and risk having my account banned (I used to enjoy chatting with foreigners and have foreign friends).
Well, after a very long time, I decided to go through my Facebook some time last week and for some reason the thought about connecting with strangers excited me but unfortunately, things didn't go as I had hoped.
You see, I know that I suck at chatting now. I'm no longer the smart guy I was those many years ago where I could hold interesting conversations with people I've never met and probably would never meet, but I didn't know it had gotten this bad. On my return to Facebook, I sent out a couple of friend request, not to foreigners but to Nigerians because I wanted to slowly ease myself back into the online space but that ended up badly.
It turned out that majority of the people online (females) these days are either rude snubs who only accept your friend requests because they're trying to increase the number of their followers or people who are just looking for someone who would help them get their next meal. But then the few ones I met who genuinely just wanted to chat and probably have a good time ended up ignoring me and probably blocking me after our first few text messages because it was obvious I had nothing to say to them.
I saw myself asking random and stupid questions, questions that make me cringe now anytime I think about them. At one point I thought making use of AI but that would have made me feel even more pathetic so instead of doing that, I decided to take an easier option, I quit. The online space is not for me and I should just accept that I'm better off being a ghost reader, at least for now. Hopefully in the future I could get my mojo back and get back to being the coolest guy online with a lot of friends, both male and female.
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Hehe. I was never a person who chat a lot. I don't know I was good in it or not because I never tried it. I feel chatting is waste of time in Facebook unless it's necessary doesn't matter the another party is male or female.
Hehe. You choose to be ghost reader. That's a good choice I think 🙂.
Chatting can be fun though, when it's done with the right person. I enjoy chatting with foreigners a lot because I get intrigued by their way of life and sometimes also ask them to send me pictures of places they've been to.. It's a form of escape for me because I always try to picture myself over there and imagine what it would feel like.
I don’t think the issue was with you entirely though, maybe it’s evolution or you just don’t share the same interests. Facebook is quite outdated to me personally. I am not even ready to check my DMs, let alone keep a conversation with someone when I know I might not login until after few months. Even when I log in once a while and talk to someone shortly, we end up exchanging contacts to continue the conversation on WhatsApp.
There was that time that I was very active on Facebook and I was even almost famous. I just lost interest at a point and I am not sure I can go back to being that person on the platform. So, just embrace the change I guess.
Yeah I guess I have to embrace the change. I also don't like chatting on Facebook that much and prefer WhatsApp, just that I've noticed that people tend to behalf in a certain way when you ask them for their WhatsApp number, so I try not to ask and just continue chatting on Facebook.
Oh, I get that. Don’t worry, you will figure it all out, it might just be the app. Plus, it’s very hard to make a real friend online nowadays, it’s as if everyone is just out of it. I remember when everyone used to be excited about all of these things.
Stay out of that mess. These social media are very addictive and you are unfortunately fortunate that you couldn't survive there, lol.
😂😂😂
Unfortunately fortunate indeed.. I like the sound of that 😂.