Speak less, listen more.
I think I now understand why they say it’s good to listen more and say less because not everybody wants to hear you speak, they just want you to listen to them and agree with whatever they say. Listening to them talk is good, because it helps you know a foolish person from a wise one based on the things they say but agreeing with them should be entirely up to you. It’s your choice to agree or disagree with anyone but you don’t have to let them know what option you’re going with, knowing the correct answer yourself is enough, you don’t have to try to make everyone see things your way.
On my way back from the football field yesterday, someone had brought up a conversation about fraudsters, a simple conversation that almost turned into something much worse. The guy had spoke about how it was very hard for him to get remote jobs in foreign countries as a Nigerian because of the high rate of fraudsters the country is known to have. He further went on to say that all internet fraudsters need to be arrested, locked up and the keys thrown into the ocean lost forever, an idea I was also in support with and thought everyone else was to until a certain guy opposed what he was saying.
According to him, the foreigners did our forefathers dirty in the past and stole a lot from us and this was their way of paying them back for what they did those many years ago. The moment he said that, I had a reply for him but chose not to say anything instead, I just listened, a very wise choice I had later discovered it to be because few minutes into the conversation and the guy supporting the fraudsters was already threatening to beat up the other guy and any other person who supported the fraudsters getting locked up (he was huge).
The guy supporting the fraudsters started saying really dump things like this was why the foreigners was able to fool us because we had no unity back then and still don’t. Apparently he wants us to join hands together and defraud everybody like it’s some kind of family business or in this case, country business lol.
After the whole commotion was relaxed and no one was no longer talking about the internet fraudster thing, I had no doubt but to believe that the dude supporting the fraudsters was either a fraudster himself or he has interest in becoming one. Whatever the case may be, I pray the hands of the law catch up with him soon and he gets to pay for his crimes and maybe those of us trying so hard to make it the honest way out there won’t be scared to say “I’m a Nigerian” when we’re asked what our nationality is.