Smart Choices
On the blog I made yesterday (you can find it here), I had talked about how I hate to see my friends in certain situations, especially in those kind of situations that I can't help out on due to the lack of resources and stuff.
Well today, a friend of mine who I haven't spoken to in a long time had contacted me out of the blue. We had both met in school during my freshman year and all of a sudden she just disappeared. I somehow misplaced her contacts and we never spoke until today. She had called and after we caught up on old times, she began to tell me heartbreaking stories of the things she currently was going through.
I don't want to go into details but the short story of it all is that she got pregnant by her boyfriend who suddenly became abusive, so she had to leave him but can't go back home because her dad disowned her due to the pregnancy and now she stays with a relative with little to nothing to eat, while being eight months pregnant.
The whole story broke my heart and I wonder how I was able to compose myself and not cry on the phone. Right after we ended the call, I had sent her the little I had even though I knew it wasn't enough.
The whole thing just made me realize how one silly decision could ruin your life (not like hers is ruined). And even though she didn't say it, I know that this can't be the first time her boyfriend has been abusive on her, maybe she just decided to overlook it and now she's in this very critical condition.
The good news for her though is that there's still a way out of all this, all she needs to do is focus on having a safe delivery and then she can move on with her life after that.
Unfortunately, this is one of those situations where I really can't do anything, except send her money from time to time in order for her to be able to get things to eat so as to keep herself and the baby healthy. Things like this will always break my heart even if it happens to people I don't know, I just hope people get to make smart choices in the future in order to avoid finding themselves in this kind of situations.
I really feel sad for her. I don't understand why people make such kind of mistakes for the emotion of little time. At the end she is suffering. And what can you do except giving financial help.
And the worse thing is that she's the only one suffering all of it.. The dude is just somewhere else, probably having the best time of his life.
Wow.. I feel for her and all I wish is for a safe delivery so she could know what is next to do with her life. You know, there are decisions one makes when it comes to love and no one can blame them without listening to their side of the story. To her, she might have been clouded by the love which made things turn the way it is now. I hope she gets herself back while her Dad embraces her back.
I guess this was what they meant when they said love is blind.
I guess so too.
When this type of mistake happens, the best thing is to shift focus on solutions and prepare for the next like you said safe delivery rather than wallowing in regrets and getting angry at oneself.
You did your best and aside money, kind words of encouragement is needed.