Sliding Into The Dms

I've always been that guy who always prefers doing things the old school way when it comes to talking to people (especially the opposite sex) for the first time. I'm not really that bold when it comes to approaching the opposite sex but if I must talk to you, I prefer coming to meet you face to face rather than slide into your dm online.

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I find it kind of disrespectful, especially when sliding into your dm involves me stealing your number (on WhatsApp) off a group that we both are members of, I really don't like that. I might be cool with sliding into your dm on Instagram or twitter, but taking your number off a group on WhatsApp just feels like crossing the line for me.

But unlike me, my friend is the complete opposite. He prefers online chatting rather than talking face to face. He pride himself as someone who could win any lady over through his chat,and even though some of that might be true, he's a complete different human when he meets the lady face to face. He's one of those guys who tells you online all the things they'd do to you when you guys meet and then when y'all eventually meet, the wild personality he had online would be no where to be found.

Well there was this one time my friend finally succeeded in making me try things his way, the online way. There was this other lady that I genuinely liked and only wanted to be friend with her because I've seen her a couple of times and she has always been someone who respects herself. So my friend gave me her number and encouraged me to chat her up.

I felt it was a bad idea but there was nothing wrong in trying something new, so I sent her a text, to which she replied almost immediately with the question "Who is this?"

I tried to joke around a bit but she wasn't having any of it. She had said it was either I told her who I was or she was going to block me, so I told her who I was. But when I found out the whole thing was a bad idea was when she requested for my picture. It was starting to feel like a job interview but I sent it to her anyways and then she told me that she recognized me and that was it, she stopped texting.

I immediately felt that maybe she had gotten the wrong impression about me due to the fact that I texted her on WhatsApp, on her private number that she didn't give to me, so after I sent some few text and got no reply, I felt embarrassed and immediately apologised if I had wronged her by texting her.

I felt like a fool and promised her that I wouldn't do it again because I had no idea that she'd get offended. Surprisingly, she responded and told me that she wasn't upset or anything like that, but when I asked her why she had stopped replying at first, she ghosted me again and that was when I took that as my cue to leave and deleted her number.

Then I went to explain everything to my friend who wasted no time to laugh at me. We both ended up laughing really hard at the whole thing but now my fear for sliding into people's dm has tripled and I don't see myself doing it ever again.