Second chances

When it comes to relationships, there are certain situations we find ourselves in where we end up begging our partners for a second chance or where we end up being the ones who needs that second chance.

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I've come to find out that I'm not really the kind of guy that does that kind of stuff, I don't give second chances, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. If I find out that you cheated on me or you're cheating on me, it's over and there's nothing that person will say to me to change that.

I know it might sound like being too strict or unforgiving but that's just the kind of man I am. And this is because the trust will just never be the same like it used to be. And funny enough I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I took a couple of days to do like a little bit of survey at my hostel, asking the guys if they would forgive their partners if they caught them cheating, to which all of them said no.

But the funny thing was that when I asked the ladies the same question, majority of them said they would give the guy a chance to explain why he did what he did and if he gives them a good explanation, they might end up forgiving him. So at the end of the survey, what I found out was that while most men would end the relationship, most women will give a second chance.

And to me, that is crazy considering how research has shown that when it's comes to cheating, men cheat the most. So it's almost as if the men can't tolerate or handle the same thing they do everyday to the ladies. Which really isn't fair if your ask me but speaking for myself, I always tell anyone I'm in a relationship with that irrespective of the fact that they might forgive me if they catch me cheating on them, I won't do the same if the reverse was the case because I can't handle it. And this is because I hate not being at peace with myself, which is what will happen if I keep on questioning every of your movement simply because I no longer trust you.

So while women might be great at giving second chances, we guys aren't because we see things a little bit differently.