Saying no to yes

Experience has taught me that sometimes, you need to say no to people, not because you don't want to give them what they're asking for but because you're training them to know that in as much as you're always willing to help, there might come a day when you might not want to and that they shouldn't feel bad about it.

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Basically what I'm trying to say is that saying yes all the time makes people feel entitled and most times it ends up getting out of your control.. Don't worry, I have a silly story to better drive home my point.

Due to the power supply issue we always face in this country, owning a generator is seen as a big deal especially in an area dominated by students where the majority of them are broke and just trying to graduate. So I have this friend of mine who whenever he turns on his generator and goes into his room, would occasionally hear people knock on his door, people who wants to charge all of their gadgets and stuff.

And instead of him to take it from them at the door and help them plug it in, he would leave his door open and ask them to come plug it themselves, and when they do that, they most times sit to press the phone while it's charging and also join him in seeing whatever movie he was seeing at the time.

At first it wasn't a problem and there was no reason to complain but then it got to a stage where he could no longer get a moment of privacy to himself because whenever he turns on his generator, there is someone waiting outside who doesn't only wants to charge their phone, but continue the series they were seeing the last time.

It got so bad that he began to complain to me, telling me how he no longer wants anyone to stay in his room anymore but doesn't know how to stop them at the door and ask them to give him their gadgets for him to help them charge it inside, and this was because he knew changing the pattern of how things are normally done would raise eyebrows and make people talk.

Which is probably the last thing he probably wants, so now he's stuck with all of this people in his room almost every night just because he decided to always be the yes guy and give them what they want.

But again like I said, there's nothing wrong with being the yes guy, just be prepared for some inconveniences that are bound to come with it. If you ask me, saying no is a huge part of life and we should learn to not see it as a bad thing but should look at it the say way we look at saying yes.

Don't be afraid of saying no to yes every now and then, trust me when I say it will help make your life a whole lot easier.