Rules on Privacy
I was seeing a Nigerian movie today about a rich man who had lots of properties scattered everywhere in the country and had the papers to those properties hidden in a vault that no one, except him knew the whereabout and then one day he had died from an heart attack and none of his family members (not even his wife) knew about those properties so no one got to claim them after his demise and suddenly I remembered something that happened some years back.
Some years ago, I found out that my dad had bought some land and was planning on building on it. He didn't tell any of us at home other than my mom and if it wasn't for her, we wouldn't have known the time we did. I remember her telling me about the land purchase and making me promise not to mention it to my dad because he wasn't ready to tell us yet, which I understood because I've come to find out that men (especially Nigerian men from my experience) like to keep things secret until the very last moment before they make it known to anyone. He eventually told I and my siblings after about a year or thereabout.
My dad had told his wife (my mom) but there are people out there who would keep it a secret from even their wife for years until they finally decide to tell them about it, which brings me to today's question.
Do you guys feel it's wrong for someone in a relationship to keep things hidden from their partner and that they should always tell them about everything going on with them or do you feel that there's absolutely nothing wrong with having some secrets of your own?
The same thing also applies to privacy because I've had this conversation with my friends in the past and we all always end up agreeing to disagree due to the fact that we never come to the same conclusion. Does being in a relationship give your partner exclusive access to your phone and social media accounts because I've seen people get angry when their partner deny them access, almost like it's their right to have access.
So I guess at the end of the day, the question I'm asking is, does being in a relationship deny you your right to privacy or should there be certain things that you should be able to keep from your partner even if you're not doing something bad like cheating.
Bro you will tell me the name of that movie later but I think it is bad to not be able to tell your family secrets, well if you can’t tell your family about it and waiting for the last moment, you might have a lawyer will it out for you instead but in the absence of a lawyer, it is better to tell you wife about it incase, we never can tell…
And wait lol, because we are in a relationship you want to have access to my privacy like social medias, even i aint cheating I won’t allow you, that’s totally out of it, there should be some certain things that needs to be a secret in a relationship man, nice write up..
Real deal Prayzz, i realized you haven’t made a thread on the INLEO frontend yet, how you you like to make use of it today, I think you should make use of it more often, should I be expecting your threads, I will be expecting it, thanks…
But aren't you contradicting yourself?
You want to tell your spouse everything but wouldn't let them go through your private things like your phone.. Isn't that you not telling (or in this case, showing) her everything?
In case of financial issues I think there need to be any secret between husband and wife because there is no guarantee of life and anything can happen anytime and so for the security of those finance at least it should be shared with wife.
In case of social media I think five wishes should exist. Even if they are partner, they are individual person and they should have some privacy.
Okay, I like the way you said in case of financial issues.. Does that mean every other thing can be kept a secret so long as they aren't financial related things?
It is a fact that a person should not hide anything from his life partner, everything should be told to each other because life does not know when it will end and if the life partner is understanding, then the life of a person who Yes, she will go through a lot of good and good and bad times come to every human being and wise people spend what they have wisely and then make their lives more beautiful during the good times.