Relating with Family

_{Photo by Annie Spratt}

Some few weeks ago, I had previously written about how I don't have the best of relationships with my aunties and uncles and this is because I don't call or text any of them, unless I'm asked to (maybe to pass a message over to them). To me, it's not a big deal because I honestly don't think I have to talk to you everytime for us to be close, I mean the best kind of friendship are those kind where you don't speak to each other for months but when you eventually do, it's as if you guys were never apart.

Anyways, when I got to realize that everyone had something to say about me distancing myself from them, was the day I had graduated from the university. I had sent some of my graduation pictures over to my extended family WhatsApp group and I had received comments like "Mr I want to be left alone has graduated". Of course I didn't care about the comments because I know it didn't come from a place of hate but that of love, all they wanted was for me to be more open to them and communicate more.

My aunties had even gone a step further by complaining to my dad about it, to the extent that he had to call me early one morning. My dad rarely calls me in the morning, unless he has something urgent or an important message to pass to me, other than that, he usually waits until it's noon or later in the evening to call and chit chat. So when I saw his call that morning, I had thought it was something very important and had quickly sat up to answer his call.

But after exchanging pleasantries, I was surprised that the first question he had asked me was why I had refused to visit my aunt, that was when I knew that one of them had recently complained to him about me. Of course I came up with my usual excuses of not knowing what to say to them whenever I visit and he as usual had shut me up and gave me some words of advise before threatening with the usual "You will soon find out what you've done to yourself if you continue to be alone", basically telling me that there's nothing as strong as family which I also agree.

But even that call wasn't going to change that, he knew it, I knew it and even my aunt knew it, and that was probably why she initiated plan B.

My little brother has been staying with my aunt for a while now but then all of a sudden I got a call from my aunt last night, telling me of her plans of travelling down to the village for some few days, and she needed me to either come stay with my brother at her place until she's back or I come take him back to my place, my choice. But whatever option I choose, one thing was certain, I will be coming to her place.

After I was done talking to her on the phone, my phone starting ringing again, it was a call from my dad. This was clearly a double attack from both of them, my aunt attacking me from the front and my dad from my back. By the time I was done with that call, it was already settled that I would be going down to her place.

But will I be staying there, I don't know yet. My plan is to go scout the area to know if it's a place I can survive in for a few days. For now, I'm just getting ready for all of the questions my aunt will be throwing my way because I know she has been waiting for this day since like for ever.

I won't even be surprised if the whole travelling down to the village thing was all a sham because I don't trust that woman.