Regrets
I happen to be someone who tries to be very careful in everything I do in other to avoid having regrets in the future because if there’s one thing I hate, it’s regrets. Knowing that if I had done something differently, I would have ended up with a different result, a more preferred result.
So in other to avoid finding myself in such situations, I always try to imagine every possible outcome that may come out of whatever situation I’m about to get into before getting into it. That way, I must have calculated all of my movements and avoid any silly mistakes that I might end up regretting in the future.
Unfortunately, I’m only a human and can’t always think everything through. There is always going to be one thing that I missed or something I just didn’t even know was there in the first place.
But sometimes, regrets comes not from our own mistakes but from things we did in the past, things that aren’t mistakes but we wished we didn’t do.
I remember one time I thought a friend a technique I used in wooing the ladies and he had tried it and it worked for it. We had later found ourselves in a situation where we liked the same lady and then the guy who shouldn’t have been a competition became a very strong one.
He had mastered the techniques and even evolved it in his own way Lol. He ended up getting the girl but only because I allowed him to or at least that is what I like to tell myself, lol.
The last time I had real regrets was when I overheard one of my friends lie to his family about something that had happened. He had twisted the whole story and made me the villain. I remember hearing his family say that I was a devil in disguise pretending to be a good guy and how badly those words had hurt me.
I felt betrayal and regrets because I had defended that same friend in the presence of my own family only to find out he was doing the direct opposite in his.
He still thinks he’s my friend till date because he doesn’t know what I know but I’m the kind of guy who doesn’t allow a mistake to repeat itself twice, never!
Sometimes it feels like a lesson whenever you fall a victim and wished you reversed your steps. Any form of regret i find yourself in, I always learn from it knowing fully well that I cannot press the undo button so learn and make sure it never loops.
Your case with a friend was bad tho, and if I was putting on your shoes i could tell it out to such a Friend what he had done and how I feel about it if he values our friendship and still want us!.
I actually happen to be the kind of guy that won't say anything when I get offended by a friend.. I just withdraw myself from them quietly.
You are so me sha😅💔
I've been on this page before. Trying hard to weigh possibilities and outcomes before begining a journey. But like you said, we're humans and sometimes we'll let our guard down.
About your friend, well, it's brave of you to keep that to yourself. I definitely would have put up a cold attitude and eventually tell you why but anyways you shouldn't have regrets over that. Rather you should admit to yourself how much of a better person you are. Learn from the situation and move on. I'm sorry about what happened.
You're right. And I have learned from it, I'm just not sure I've moved on yet.
That's alright. Do not pressure yourself too, gradually you'll move past it.