Privacy
Relationships can be really scary sometimes especially if you listen to most of these stories from people who recently got out of a relationship, you might decide to forever be alone and not date anyone anymore.
I have this friend of mine whose relationship ended today. His girlfriend had been the one who called it off after she had asked him if he knew some other lady and he had lied and told her he didn't, not knowing that she had gone through his phone.
Actually, he said he knew she had gone through his phone (because that was the only way she got to know about the lady in the first place) but he had still denied knowing the lady for two reasons, the first being that he was upset she had gone though his phone and the second being that him telling her he knew the lady would only result to her assuming more crazy things about him and the lady, and he wasn't in the mood for all that so he kept on denying until she called off the whole thing.
Listening to him talk, I could clearly tell he was already fed up with the whole relationship of a thing, not because he no longer loved her, but because he was tired of always being investigated by his girlfriend. According to him, this wasn't the first or second time she was secretly going through his phone while he doesn't do that to her.
He said that there had been a couple of times where she had mistakenly left her phone unlocked and went to take care of other stuff and he easily could have gone through her private messages but decided not to and locked the phone instead. And according to him, he wasn't doing all that because he trusted her one hundred percent, but because he knew that whatever he would find there would only result to them fighting or breaking up and he didn't want any of that.
And surprisingly, I believed everything he had said because there was this one time I had to stop both of them from fighting in the middle of the night because he had taken her by surprise by asking her to open her messages, which she did and he ended up seeing a lot of flirty chat between herself and her co-worker. I had read the chat myself and trust me when I say it was a lot and I was shocked he had continued dating her then and now, she's breaking up with him just because he claims to not know someone they both know he knows.
Anyways, I guess my question for today is that is your partner allowed to go through your phone and private messages or should certain things that belongs to you remain private?
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It actually depends but I wouldn't like it when my man goes through my phone. Or let me say it this way. Most people give what they can't take. If it was the guy who checked the lady's phone, she must have gotten very angry but she can do that to him
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I've actually seen people who thinks that as long as they're both in a relationship, then they both should have access to both of their phones, no privacy whatsoever.
In my case I think doesn't matter who the person we should not share our private messages with others.
Boyfriend girlfriend used to say that it's because of trust issue. But from my perspective if both of them trust each other then why they it to check. Isn't it mean they don't trust each other??
That's true.. But what about in cases where one of the partners has been caught cheating in the past, does that give their partner the right to check their phones?
I prefer no. In that case, I feel that they should isolate from each other. If there exist trust issues, then I must say they don't deserve to consider them partners.