People Forget Quickly

Rather than offering the few seeds you have to people, all in the name of being generous and kind, plant that seed for yourself and then when it's time for harvest, you can give to people as much as you want..while also having enough for yourself.

_{photo by Allef Vinicius}

Some few hours ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who currently is going through a lot financially. This guy used to be one of the richest guys here back in the day but somehow everything went sideways and he went broke.. And now, all he has is nothing but stories of mistakes and lessons that he has learnt along the way.

He talked about how when he had money, no one at home ever questioned him or his movements because he was always sending money back home for their upkeep and all that, but now that things were no longer how it used to be, no respects him like they use to.

But if there was one thing I learnt from everything he said to me tonight, it is to never give away money that should be invested in your business, just because you're trying to help out in some way, because the moment you pick that person over your business, and your business ends up crumbling, everyone or almost everyone you placed ahead of that business will leave you hanging when you eventually go broke...some of them would even end up not becoming your friends anymore.

What's sad in the case of this guy is that he got the same attitude from people he calls family, the same people he had tried providing for while totally neglecting the fact that he needed to continue investing in order to remain in a position where he could keep on helping them out.

And this was an important lesson for me to learn because I'm always the kind of guy who wants to help anyway I can, and sometimes I tend to take money from stuff I shouldn't take money from, just so that I can assist someone. And unfortunately, I'm not the kind of guy who likes to ask people for favors, especially financial ones, so when my decision does come back to hunt me, I end up suffering through it alone.

So the best thing one can do for themselves is to focus on that business, put as much money as you can into it while ignoring other things (or assisting a little bit) if they aren't important enough, and then when your business eventually becomes successful, you can help as much people as you want and not go broke when doing that like this guy did.

Because at the end of the day, when you're no longer in a position to help, people forget quickly the sacrifice you had to make for them... So normalise putting yourself first.