Parental Control

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Recently I've been thinking about how we do things without even giving it a second thoughts because our parents asked us to or because we were born into that system and must follow the pattern and also pass it on to the next generation.

The moment a child is born, a mental map of how that child should live his or her life has already been created. Go to school, get a job, get married, have some kids and then just wait for your death.

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It's pretty basic but I've been thinking, what if the child doesn't want to go to school, or get married and have kids. What if the person doesn't want to get married but wants to have kids. This should be things we should be able to decide for ourselves without anyone interfering in it. And maybe, maybe in civilized first world countries, parents allow their child to make such decisions, but over here in Nigeria, it's pretty much the opposite.

Your parent gets to decide almost everything and when you tend to go against their wishes, they start guilt tripping you, and in a bid not to make our parents feel bad, we succumb to their wishes and end up doing what they want even though it doesn't make us happy.

Don't get me wrong, I believe every good parent want what's best for their child but they can't always be right and sometimes they do need to allow their children think for themselves and take decisions themselves, especially those decisions that they will live with for the rest of their lives. It's okay for them to advise us on certain decisions that we're about to take, tell us the possible results that may come from taking such decisions but deciding to go ahead with it or not should solely be for us to decide.

I thought about playing a prank on my dad, I wanted to call and tell him that I only want to have a child of my own and not get married. It was just going to be a harmless prank but the thought of me pranking him with something like that was so scary to me that I ended up not doing it because one thing I know for a fact is that I want to live long and don't want the cause of my demise to be because of a silly prank lol.

But on a more serious note, I hope we find the courage to be able to tell our parents that this is what we want for ourselves even if it contradicts what they want for us and I hope they get to be understanding and considerate.


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You are damn right on this write up.A child ought to be giving opportunity to choose for themselves

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Not necessarily a "child" though. 😅

But I know we both understand what we're saying. Just don't mind me, I play a lot. 😅

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like that was so scary to me that I ended up not doing it

Hahaha! Give it a try you know! Don't just assume he'll over react 🤣. I think I'll give mine a try lol.

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Good luck on this dangerous quest of yours adventurer. Do let me know what hospital you get admitted in after you're done, so I can send flowers.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣. You'll be shocked

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