Not thinking about the consequences

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I know that sometimes, most of us like to throw caution to the wind and just act on impulse, not minding that some of the things we do might end up coming back to haunt us in the future.

Back in the day, people get into relationships with someone they see a future with. Someone who if things get bad (or good) and you guys have no choice but to get married, they won't regret the decision because he or she is someone they wouldn't mind spending the rest of their life with.

But recently, it's quite the opposite, people date just for the moment, for the fun of it. Like most guys would date a crazy bad girl not because they would like to get married to a crazy bad girl, but because they enjoy their vibe for the time being. And when it's eventually time for them to get married, they go look for a homely God-fearing woman who can take care of a home. The same thing applies to some ladies too.

You see, while it's okay to have all the fun in the world, we have to be careful because a day could come where we get unlucky and end up getting stuck with one of those stupid decisions that we had taken.

And yes, I know there are people out there who like their partner a bit crazy and all that, and if you happen to be that kinda of person, then this post isn't for you. It's for people who go for the complete opposite of what they actually want just to have fun.

I remember I used to have this neighbour many years ago who got married to a lady he had met at the club. They had dated for a while and he had gotten married to her after getting her pregnant. So the marriage was mainly due to her pregnancy and not because he wanted to marry her.

And almost everyday until we moved out of that area, both couples would quarrel and fight, even when she was pregnant. It got worse after she gave birth as the man would occasional beat her up and give her a black eye.

Now I probably might be wrong, but both of them probably never wanted to get married to each other in the first place and only dated for fun, but then she mistakenly got pregnant and her people found out about it and forced the guy to marry her, and now both of them are forced to wake up each morning and just fight.

Now I know that nowadays getting pregnant doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get married to that person, but back in the day, over here it was taken pretty seriously and unless both parties involved (the guy and the girl) were ready to bear whatever consequences that came with going against their parents wish to get married, they had no choice but to do it.

Anyways, the reason why I'm bringing this up is because I recently just got off the phone with a lady friend of mine who's going through the same thing. She got pregnant for a guy who everyone knows wouldn't make a good father due to his way of life, luckily for her, she had refused to marry him and stuck to her decision.

Few months later after she gave birth, they both ended their relationship due to some misunderstanding between them and now she's thanking her stars that she didn't agree to marry him in the first place.