No one
Ever since I stumbled on an article online about Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and anger management, I started to watch myself to see if maybe I had anger issues. This was at a very young age but I was able to notice that I indeed got angry easily so I started to work towards it myself without saying a word to any of the adults around.
Mine wasn't that serious though (I think), because even though I got angry easily, I was always slow to react. I didn't just hit anyone who offended me, as a matter of fact, I can count how many times I've fought in my life on my fingers and this is because I rarely raise my fist. But one thing I did do a lot was not talk to people for a very long time after they offended me, it was my own way of retaliating.
The reason why I'm talking about anger today is because of today's Hive Learners contest which asked us a question if there's someone we just can't seem to stay angry at for long because of how close we are to them and my answer is no.
Right now, there's actually no one in my life that I can't stay angry at. Even though I now try to stay cool and most times not get angry at things that normally would have gotten me angry in the past, I still will have issues with you if you someone find a way to make me not cool and upset.
But if there must be one person I probably won't be able to stay angry at for a whole day, then it's probably my dad and this is not because I can't stay angry at him or he can't offend me in a way that will make me that angry at him, it's simply because of the way I was raised. Over here, respect for elders is like the number thing every child is taught, almost like they find a way to print it into our brain.
So if our parents do offend us, staying angry at them for long always looks like us disrespecting them, so we somehow find a way to forgive them as soon as possible. So forgiving our parents immediately even if they do something extremely terrible mostly comes from a place of respect.
So aside from my parents, I don't know if there's anyone else that I can't stay angry at for a long time.
This is so right on point! We actually don’t have a choice than to forgive our parents and move on with life because if we look at it very well, behind every annoyance from them is that pure love that they have for their child, like I mean who else would love us better than our parents (asides God, our creator sha 😂).
True.. But sometimes it's pure annoyance that really deserves some form of retaliation but we just can't, because they're our parents.
Yes, it respects especially in Yoruba land when you don´t get angry at your parents because whether you like it or not, they will still blame you and not them. So, we believe they know and see the best than we do.
Exactly.. We've been all wired that way and some of us are also going to pass it down to our kids.
That is for sure.