Most Men Can't Take their Own Bullshit
I have this lady friend on WhatsApp who has made it her sole purpose to always remind us that men can't take the bullshit they expect most ladies to take from them and I won't lie, everytime she writes something like that, accompanied with her various real life stories that she never fails to share with us on her WhatsApp status, I always agree with her.
I have this friend of mine who had cheated on his girlfriend and shockingly, he had told her about it. I remember the day he told us that he told his girlfriend about his affairs and myself and the boys nearly ran mad.
"You told her what?!" We all had asked at the same time, the look of shock evident on all our faces.
According to him, he had confessed about it because his girlfriend has always been good to him and he felt really bad having to do something like that to her. When he was done talking, I understood his reasons for coming clean (this was also his first time cheating) but deep down I still felt like he took a huge risk telling her the truth because if it was someone like me, I probably would never eat her food again or at least for a month because I would be scared scared of getting poisoned or something.
Anyways, the next obvious question we had asked was how she took it and he had told us that at first she had reacted the expected way. She had gotten upset, even called him names and then stopped talking to him, but somehow he was able to get her to forgive him within few days and now they're back together.
The whole thing was just a clear sign of how much she loves him to be willing to forgive him for doing something that crazy, something I knew I couldn't do and he too. And just as if to validate my thought, one of the boys had asked him if he had been the one who got cheated on, would he be able to forgive her and without giving it a second thought, his response was "hell naaahh" and we all laughed because we all were thinking the same thing.
I know for a fact that I wouldn't forgive anyone if they cheat on me and yet, I still would want them to forgive me when I do cheat on them. It's a crazy and unfair thing to be honest but just like my lady friend would always say, most men can't take their own bullshit.
How bad! Why men expect women to do what they cannot do themselves. I mean the forgiveness.
Your post made me thought if there are research backing about the causes of this prevailed phenomenon. I will look into it.
What I personally think the behavior has something to do with our cultural norms where men are considered more powerful and women more dependent.
It unconsciously (if not deliberately) becomes the part of our upbringing that a woman needs to reconcile and forgive so that she may have the so called protective shield.
Anyways, I must tell if a woman decides to take revenge it would have no match with a man's revenge.
Sometimes the ladies forgive because there is this messed up mentality that men are polygamous in nature and will always cheat.. So they (the ladies) just accept it.
Hmmmm. Makes sense
A lot of women can take this and it is what I can do too but once she's gone, sope otilor
I believe a man can cheat but don't do it to my face cos it means you are disrespecting me and don't infect me
Well, I know as a man, I would never settle for anything like that. Even the idea of her cheating gets me really upset.
This is true from my experience. I had a friend that cheated on his girlfriend and the girl forgave him and they moved on. He later broke up with the girl with just an allegation of cheating on him. No evidence, yet he broke up with the girl. I was mad at him but he stuck to his position.
What I can conclude from all these us selfishness. Wicked one.
Lol.. Breaking up on just allegations is crazy but yeah, that just goes to show how unforgiving men can be when it comes to cheating in relationships.
It's a critical situation and I think if someone confesses to me by her own approach and says she feels guilty and wants to correct her mistakes and I may give her a second chance.
Moreover, it depends on many things and some other factors can make an impact in the case of taking a decision.