More love, less ego
Earlier today, I had seen this tiktok where the guest at a podcast had told the hosts that he was going to make them laugh but nothing he tried worked, that was when he said something, something that resonated with me. The guest had told them that the only reason they didn't laugh wasn't because he wasn't funny but because the hosts saw it as a competition the moment he said he was going to make them laugh, one they wanted to win, so they made sure not to laugh.
Basically, the point the guest was trying to make was that we humans always want to compete even when we don't have to. We always want to flex our ego and prove other people wrong, not because they're wrong or have to be wrong but because we feel it's a competition and we have to be the one who's right.
Another example on ego was a day I had gone to my barber to have an haircut but he wasn't there so we (I and my friend who escorted me) had to wait for the barber to show up. While we were waiting, another guy showed up, he too wanted to have an haircut and was complaining about how he needed to be somewhere in about an hour and couldn't be late.
Now how it's been done is that the first person to show up at the shop is usually the first to get an haircut, so when the barber did eventually show up, it was only normal I got on the seat first. But this guy, the one who claimed to have somewhere important to be had jumped on the seat before me. Now as an understanding guy, I didn't see a problem with it at first because I had all the time to kill, so I was fine with waiting another half an hour to get my haircut and that was what happened.
But on my way home from the saloon, I started to think about the whole thing and all of a sudden I felt this sudden anger, like someone had cheated me off my right. The feeling was so hurtful that I felt like turning back the hands of time and going back to the first time when that dude jumped on the seat.
But seriously now that I think about it, although I would have been right to fight for that seat because I got to the shop first, I feel like I had done the right thing to let the other guy go first and I shouldn't feel cheated or anything like that, rather I should see it as me being nice. That to me, is a more positive way to look at things.
At the end of the day, I guess what I'm getting at is that it shouldn't always be about us, we as humans should sometimes think about other people and not just about our ego. Everything shouldn't always be a competition or a show of ego... Instead, we should learn to give more love, and less ego.
Hehe. Indeed we are always in a race and we want to win in any kind of situation. I think all of us have something to do important in time and if we keep leaving our seats for those people in the end we will lose our valuable time. If I were in your place I would not leave the seat. If that person has something important to do then he should do the important task first and come again in his free time. You didn't kill time of you only, you killed other's time also. If I were in second place I might not be allowed to cut hair of you after that man gone because you left the 1st slot means you deserve the last slot and why I would give you my second slot. It's because you don't have the right to kill other's time. (My opinion)
Hmmm I understand what you're saying but I guess why my case was different was because it was just the two of us waiting to get an haircut.
Of course this is true, but if we talk about two people, one is the one who talks to people with good manners and makes such jokes and the other is the one who shows ego to people, then people do not like such people at all. Don't like, meet once, never meet again.
Thank you for reading.
Most welcome dear.