Money and Respect

Most times, the difference between having a good woman and a bad one is money.

_{photo by Towfiqu barbhuiya}

I apologize if that first sentence got you upset, but growing up as a kid, we used to hear these things but never really thought much about them, probably because at the time we felt they were none of our business due to how young we were then.

But time went by and we're grown now, and all of a sudden what we didn't deem important then is currently what we're going through.

I have this friend of mine who met this girl four years ago, and they both began dating. At the time, she had a job, but it wasn't one that was paying well. So whenever she came around his place, he wouldn't foot the bill for everything (mainly for the food they ate and occasionally her hair and other little stuff) because it wasn't a problem, and he knew it was his job to do that.

As time went on, she quit her job and had to get another one; then she quit that one too and got the one that she's currently working at. It's been four years now that they've been dating, and during those four years, according to my friend, while it seemed like she was progressing and doing better with every new job she got, he was doing the opposite.

And all of a sudden he found himself in a situation where he couldn't afford to do things he used to do for them anymore. They now had to share bills, and there were even days when she had to foot the whole thing herself.

Now, he's a man, and he feels some kind of way about these things when they happen, which is why he would always tell her how thankful he is that she was filling in for him now that he was struggling. There were days when he would be with us (the boys) and wouldn't shut up about how much he loves his girl and how she was the one feeding him and stuff.

And we were happy for him. Many of us were even jealous because most ladies around here nowadays are only interested in taking and would leave you the moment you start looking like a liability.

Well, to cut the long story short, I had a conversation with him recently, and apparently his sweet, loving lady has turned into something else for a while now. According to my friend, she no longer respects him, nor does she act like she cares about him.

To him, it feels almost like due to the fact that she has been providing for him, she no longer sees the need to be respectful because she's no longer getting anything from the relationship. And that made sense because money makes people comply, be they men or woman.

And the moment people realize that the money is no longer there, they no longer respect you. And most men don't know this, especially when in a relationship. This is why when they go broke and they see their women acting disrespectfully, they endure and just wait until they get back on their feet so that they can dump her and move on with their lives.

To some of them, this isn't wickedness; they're just scared of going broke again and having to live through the same torment with the same woman. all over again.