Maybe Men are Scum But...
People always say men are born cheaters and that nothing can be done about that. I might agree a bit but not entirely. To me, I just feel like the one problem most men (not all men, most men) have is that they get tired quick and I will explain.
I was talking to a friend earlier in the day today and I asked about his girlfriend (because I know they both stay together) and that was when he opened up to me. He and the lady had been dating for about six months before she had some issues with her accommodation and he had asked her to come stay with him for the time being while she sort out her place.
One week turned to a month and from a month, it's been over four months now. And even though she now has a place of her own to stay, she still stays with him. The dude wasn't complaining at first because according to him, it felt great having her around but then as time went on he started to get fed up and now he's getting tired of her. The moment he said that, I immediately understood his point and in most cases, what usually follows next is him cheating on her.
Now before I go any further, let me just put it out there that I'm not trying to justify men cheating, I just feel like the women also have some roles to play to make their men miss them and want to be with them and one of those things involves making themselves scarce when they have to. They don't have to be available all the time for their men and they don't have to be unavailable all the time, they just have to find a way to balance the whole thing perfectly so that whenever they're available and together, he would value every minute they get to spend together and he would also look further to their next meeting when she's leaving.
I know some of you might be like "What if he gets married, won't he live with his wife?". Of course he will have to live with his wife but I do feel like they are not completely the same situation here and this is because before you get married to someone, I'm sure you must have prepared yourself because you know you will be living with this other person for the rest of your life, that's the plan unlike in a relationship where we don't prepare ourselves for things like that because that's not what we expect when going into the relationship. So you see, it's a bit different.
Yes I agree that when it comes to relationships that men do cheat, but sometimes it's because of the too much availability of the lady, while most times it's just because men are scum and will still cheat even if you do all the maths in the world to manage the time you get to spend with him.
I think it goes the same the other way as well, women cheat just as much and that's including not being in a relationship or married. Some women just play guys feelings for free food, gifts etc. You just don't see it discussed as much because the women don't get caught or it's not really talked about as much because guys won't really talk with their guy friends too deep into this topic. If a guy gets caught cheating, it's going to spread like wildfire through women gossip with their best friends. A relationship is two people and if the man/woman cheats than that's unlucky because that means you made a poor judgement on their character. It's also very irresponsible to cheat too. In my opinion, a man/woman should respectfully break up first before seeing another person as that's not very hard to do if you have no feelings anymore for that person. You may hurt them for a while but it won't be painful as them finding out you are seeing someone else while you are together with them. Of course in marriage this kind of decision isn't so simple as kids maybe be involved but I don't want to elaborate too much haha. Anyways I will just end it here if not I could go on longer. I tried to cut it short as possible.
Of course you're right, we all know that both men and women cheats 😂 I was just focused more on the men on this post.
You should know that most men don't cheat because they're tired of their relationship or because they love someone else, in most cases they cheat probably because of the fun of it or one other stupid reason. Most men who cheat still love their wife one hundred percent 😅.
fair enough :P