Matters Of The Heart

I and my friends (about four of us) do this thing after each exam where we just kinda randomly select among ourselves whose hostel we would be going to eat lunch or dinner. It's kinda like a ritual that we try to observe during every exam period and after today's exam (which was a long one), we all decided to go to the person whose house was closest to the school because it was really starting to get late.

We eventually got to his place and we all quickly put something together to eat and while we were eating, this friend of mine (the one whose house we were in) started to give us some premium gist about this new girl he likes.

_{Photo by Alexandru Acea}

According to my friend, the lady had recently moved into his hostel and a close friend of his had been the first person to indicate his interest in the lady. My friend's friend had told him about his intentions to date the lady if things went his way and at the time, my friend didn't care so he even offered to help him in anyway he could.

But then my friend started talking to the lady and you know that thing that happens where the more you know someone, the more you like that person, well that shit happened to him and now he thinks he's in love with her.

Now that should be good news but then we still have the issue of my friend's friend who's in the picture and had earlier indicated his interest first in the lady. What should my friend do, should he continue having this feelings and probably ask her out in the future, while ignoring his friend's feelings for the same lady or should he back off and just let his friend shoot his shot, if he misses then he can now try shooting his.

He had asked us this question and to be honest, for the first time in a very long time, I had no response to give to him, neither did any of our friends. But now that I'm writing this, I think this is a two way thing. The first being that I don't think my friend is doing anything wrong because telling someone you like someone else doesn't make them yours, you guys are not in a relationship until you are in a relationship.

But on the other hand, the only reason my friend started talking to her in the first place was so that he could help his friend woo her so it's a really really messed up scenario and the best thing I think he should do would be him walking out of this whole thing, but you all know the matters of the heart is not that easy to handle and looking at this young man, I doubt he plans on walking away.

But what do you guys think, should he go ahead and date her (because according to him, he sees light at the end of this tunnel if he eventually asks her out) or should he respect the bro code and just do what he went there for or just walk away from the whole thing?