Lovers Quarrel
There’s this couple (not married) who live very close to where I stay. They no doubt love each other very much but something that gets me confused and is probably the reason why I’m making this post today is that they are always seen fighting each other. It’s almost like it’s part of their routine now and they just can’t go a week without us hearing one of them yelling and cursing the other and then the next day they’re back together all lovey dovey.
I and the boys were talking about it today and while some felt that their relationship was toxic, someone said something that got me thinking. He said that fighting was part of a relationship and that a relationship without fights (quarrels) won’t last long.
According to him, relationships thrives on quarrels. He said that people tend to love and become more closer to each other after they’ve had some sort of quarrel. Of course a lot of the guys disagreed with him but I just couldn’t help but see some sense in what he said.
I remember seeing a video where a lady wanted to end her relationship with her man because he was too loving and too caring. He got her everything she wanted and never for once fought with her. It was almost as if she was literally begging for some violence lol. It’s crazy I know but I stopped trying to understand women a long time ago so……
After that, I started to think that maybe some level of toxicity do come in handy in relationships, one just has to know when to cool it down a bit in other to avoid their partner getting fed up and leaving the relationship entirely. But in the case of this my neighbor, I really don’t know what to say because they do this every week.
Anyways, what do you guys think? Do you believe that fighting somehow brings lovers together after it has ended or it’s all just bullshit to you?
In my opinion, healthy relationships will have one disagreement or the other but when it’s becoming very often it gets toxic and lacks peace. With time those couples will grow apart if they don’t work on what is always making them fight because toxicity is draining.
True, toxicity can be draining.
I once think that if there is no misunderstanding in a relationship then one person must be pretending to be fine.
But the truth is that there is no perfect relationship as well as no one one is perfect quarrel is bound to occur when two people different backgrounds and reasoning come together.
For those supposed couple where I think they should draw the line is cursing and fighting themselves that's toxic even if they act to be in love.
Love is not suppose to be a war zone it should be a peaceful zone.
Yeah that’s true, they should always know where to draw the line.