Love is Hard
Love is love, peaceful and beautiful, but sometimes, it is also hard, stressful and regretful.
Growing up, I had always thought the only time I could get a girlfriend was when I was in the university, because that was what I saw in the movies. So I would spend nights dreaming about that special day that I would get to meet that special someone who would make my world all bright and colourful. These dreams didn't always come by themselves, I always made them up myself especially when I was finding it real difficult to sleep, turns out thinking about love is the best sleep potion there is.
Unfortunately, life happened and I grew up and then I realized that what the movies has always done was show us the good side of love, the side that makes you want to love love, they gave us the fantasy we all wanted so that they could make their money, and there's nothing wrong with that, only that some of us took it a little bit too seriously.
I got old and realized that just like everything else, love does has its good and bad side and that not all that glitters is gold. I realized that love can be hard, ugly and complicated, and if you're not ready to accept this side of love, then you're not ready for love at all.
To be honest, I've never really had it hard when it comes to love, I've always been lucky to be loved by who I love irrespective of how short the connection we feel might last, unlike some people who always have to fight and go the extra mile just to be loved.
I have this friend of mine who has been in love with a particular lady for a while now. He even has approached her and told her how he feels about her, to which she too claims she feels the same way. But whenever he asks to be with her, she always comes up with excuses, almost like she doesn't want to be with him or be seen with him.
The other day he had walked up to me and the first thing he said to me was "fuck love" and I instantly understood what he meant and I kid you not when I say I felt his pain. The young man already has his heart broken and he's not even in a relationship yet. Sometimes I wonder how something so peaceful and loving can also cause this much pain.
Love is beautiful, but we should also be prepared for the bad side that comes with it.