Looks can be Deceiving

I was reading through Nkem's blog today on stereotype and one of the things she had mentioned was apparently how people mistake her looking good for being rich, and it's something I could relate to as well.

But unlike hers that has to do with how good she dresses, I think mine has to do with the fact that I had added some weights during this few years, and apparently I happen to have the perfect body size of a typical rich Nigerian fraudster.

I can't tell you guys how many times I've had to swear on my life to a lot of people that I don't do fraud, but that's a conversation for another day.

To be honest, when I first noticed that my physical appearance gave people the impression that I was rich, I liked it because there's an up side to it, one of which is that people tend to give you access to certain places and things just because they feel you can afford to be in those places and have those things.

So it's not always bad. But then, just like every other good thing, there's a bad side to actually looking rich and not being rich, one of which is having people ask you for money that you don't have.

This is a screenshot of a text I got yesterday from someone I know, asking me for a favour I unfortunately couldn't do.

Usually, something like this wouldn't bother me because I'm not one of those guys who can't say no or tell you I don't have, but the problem is that it is a different story when people strongly believe that you have it and just refuses to give it to them, especially when it's people you consider to be your friends, because now the story changes and you automatically will now be seen as stingy guy.

And what's crazy is that this stuff tends to affect my friendship because when people feel like you're stingy, they tend to draw away from you and sometimes not want to help you when you come running to them for help, because they would want to give you some form of payback for not helping them when they were in need, not knowing that you truly didn't have the money.

And sadly, most times you won't even know that they hold a grudge against you, because to you, you were totally honest about not having the money and you innocently had thought that they believed you, not knowing that they didn't. So while you keep on letting your guard down around them because you think that they're still your friends and want the best for you, they could secretly be looking for ways to revenge and get back at you for something you didn't even do.

It's crazy, but that's the reality of my life right now.