Like In the Movies

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I remember when I was a little kid, I would always fantasize about the moment I will meet the love of my life in the university. I always believed we were going to meet in Uni because that is when I knew I would be old enough and free enough to have a girlfriend. I've always pictured us meeting by accident, she would be walking towards me with some books in her hands while I would be walking towards her while talking to my friends and we would crash into each other, her books falling to the floor. Then we would both go on our kneels and attempt to pick the books up at the same time but pause with our faces inches apart, and then we would both slowly rise to our feet while I apologise and she blushes like someone who has got no control over her face.

Of course we must have seen this exact same scene in movies countless times. I remember watching so much of this particular scene in bollywood and nollywood high school movies that I thought that this was how every good relationship starts. I just have to wait till I see a pretty lady carrying some books and then bam!

But you see, that isn't real life. There's a huge possibility of you getting hit across the face (depending on her mood) than you dating her but then when we see these things in movies or read them in books, we become convinced that this is how the real world works and then some of us even go as far as experimenting and then we learn the hard way that movies are mostly fictions.

Now when it comes to the question of what I think of relationships in movies and what effects it has in real life, I feel people believe too much of what they see in these movies and then they start praying to God that they get something exactly like the type they see in the movies, and then when they finally get into a relationship and don't get that exact same thing, they start to think that their lover doesn't love them and then before you know it, they start to fight or have one issue or another.

I remember I have this friend who will always tell me that he plans on dating a white woman and this is only because he feels dating a white woman will be so much easier when it comes to everything and this is because of the kind of movies he sees. Whenever he says this, we always make fun of him because this is a grown man who still thinks that the way people do things in movies is the exact same way they do things in real life. There might be some truth in it but it can never ever be exactly the same.

I pray he gets to date a white lady though and then he will get a firsthand experience that romance stories in books and movies are not the same thing in real life.