Lie To Me Please
It's crazy how the human minds works sometimes because there are times when we want something, but we know that thing isn't good for us, so we ask you to lie to us, to tell us that they're good, even though we know they're not, just so that we can convince ourselves that just because you said that thing is good for us, means it's good for us.
There's a story of a man who after four years of losing his wife, decided he wanted to get married again. So he found himself a lady he liked, but before he asked her to marry him, he had taken his kids along with him to her place, for them to see her and hopefully accept her or tell him if they noticed anything that they didn't like about the lady. Basically, he wanted his kids to see their future step-mother and tell him if they like her or not.
The kids went, and after they were back, they had told their dad the things they noticed, basically saying to him that they didn't think she was the right woman for him for certain reasons. So the dad had taken those same reasons to her (pretending like he was the one who noticed them) and spoke to her about it. He had asked her to promise him that she could change those things about her, as that was the only way their marriage could work and she agreed.
He knew he couldn't tolerate those things his kids noticed, but rather than look for someone else to marry (probably because he was in love), he had instead made her tell him what he wanted to hear, and the moment she did, he convinced himself that she was the right person for him.
So he went ahead with the marriage but as expected, things didn't work out and they ended up getting divorced. It turned out she couldn't hide those characters for long because that was who she truly was and he was trying to change her into someone she wasn't. And just like everyone else who desperately need something, she had promised to change even when she knew she couldn't.
Apparently, you can't change in one day, something that took years to build.
Unfortunately, this same thing happens to the rest of us. Rather than walk away from that thing that we clearly know isn't good for us, we try to look for ways to manage it, even going as far as believing a lie just because it suits our purpose and desire.. At the end of the day, we end up suffering from the choices and decision that we make in those moments.