Learning Something New Every day

Yesterday was an interesting day for me. It was one of those days where I got to learn something new, something that I knew would remain with me for the rest of my life and even though I didn't exactly learn this in the best circumstances, I learnt regardless.

In my post yesterday, I had written about how there's always a lesson to learn in every encounter or situation we find ourselves in, this was one of those situations and I'm glad I got to get the lesson and now I'm sure it would impact my life positively henceforth.

You see, yesterday I had gotten into a heated argument with someone I really care about and while we both were shouting at each other, the other party had said something to me, something that wasn't nice, something they clearly had said out of anger. At first I was shocked and was going to address it immediately because I felt really hurt that words refused to leave my mouth and so I decided to just give it a rest.

I knew that if we both continued, we both would had said really terrible things to each other, things we probably won't be able to take back when the whole anger cools off, so I had walked away and just avoided them completely and that to me ended up being the best decision I took because it was as if with every second that passed by, my anger went with it.

And before I knew it, I no longer felt angry but hurt. For some reason, those words they had said to me refused to leave my head and though I was no longer angry with them, I felt bad that they would think of me tin such manner to even say it to me. And I know that people say a lot of things when they're angry but the truth is that truth is bitter and anger has a way of bringing out a lot of bitter truth, that's why people say certain things to you when they're angry, things they normally wouldn't say to you if they were cool headed.

But something interesting happened. Maybe due to the fact that I was no longer angry, my brain started to work differently and I saw myself thinking about what that person had said to me and I got to the conclusion that maybe they were right. I mean, the fact that I didn't like what they said doesn't mean that it can't be true.

So I saw myself thinking clearly and not with my emotions like I normally would do. And the moment I got to the conclusion that maybe this is that person's view of me and that it's left for me to show them that they're wrong and I'm not the bad person they think I am, I started to feel better and less hurt.

And of course after the other person had calmed down, they too had come to apologize for saying such things to me but I wasn't upset anymore which I told them. And as expected they thought I was lying but I wasn't, I no longer was upset but I also was never going to forget what they had said to me either and whenever I'm around them, it will always come to mind.

So yeah, the one thing I learned from that encounter is that though what they say might hurt you, you should always take a minute to reflect on that thing and see if there's any truth in it, if there is then you have some work to do on yourself and if there isn't, just never forget that that person thinks you're that kind of person.

It might come in handy in the future.

_{Photo by Silviu Zidaru}