Learn To Say No

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I’ve always been one person who tells my friends to always learn how to say NO because if they don’t, they will find themselves doing a lot of things they really don’t want to.

So earlier today I picked up my phone and decided to check up on few of my friends. I do this from time to time just to keep in touch. After calling about two people, the third person I called was a female friend of mine, let’s call her Sandra.

I first met Sandra in school during my first year and ever since the school had been on holiday, I haven’t seen or heard from her so I decided to check up on her with a phone call. After the usual greetings and “you’ve forgotten about me” conversation, Sandra decided that she needed my help with something. Sandra needed a favor.

According to her, she recently found out that the guy she was dating had recently cheated on her. The guy’s neighbor had called her and snitched on him and when Sandra called him immediately, he didn’t answer the phone. She called twice, still yet there was no answer but Sandra decided to wait till he answered her call before jumping into conclusion.

Later that night she called him and he answered. According to Sandra, his response that night was a little bit sketchy and she ended up finding out that he cheated on her so out of anger, she ended things with him.

Now this was where she needed my help. Apparently some of her school documents was at his place and due to how the relationship ended she was scared of going there alone so she asked if I would be able to accompany her.

My first question had been the location of her ex place and when she told me the name of the place, I realized it was somewhere very far away from school. You literally have to get into two or three commercial vehicles before getting to the location and also coupled with the fact that the police presence in the state has doubled of recent, I told her that I wouldn’t be able to go with her because I don’t feel safe going all that distance just to go meet a guy that might even get more angry if he sees me because he might think I’m the new dude and the reason why she ended things with him.

Unfortunately, Sandra didn’t take my NO very well and she angrily ended the call only to call me later this evening to apologize. I asked her if she got upset because I said No and she said yes and that was when I asked her why.

I said to her “You said you wanted a favor and the last I checked, I have every right to either grant you your favor or decline while she on the other hand doesn’t have any right to be upset because she’s literally asking for my help and there isn’t any rule anywhere that says that you must help someone who wants your help”. She said nothing, probably thinking real deep about what I just said to her.

Anyways, before I ended the call, I advised her not to go alone. She should get someone to go with her just to make sure she’s safe unfortunately, that person won’t be me.