Jealous Lover
Last night, I was finding it a bit difficult to sleep because my room was hot and there wasn't any power supply, so I had decided to go sit outside for a bit. It was late (some time around 11pm) but the gate was locked and it was safe where I was, so I sat there. The plan was to sit quietly for about an hour or thereabout to mentally prepare myself for the heat before going back inside.
But about fifteen minutes of me sitting there, someone had joined me, it was my neighbour and apparently she too was finding it difficult to have some shut-eye. So we both sat outside and it didn't take long for the both of us to engage in a conversation just to pass time.
We had talked about random stuff but had somehow ended up on a conversation about relationship and it was during that conversation that she had asked if I was the jealous type, a jealous lover. Now honestly, if this question had been asked some months ago, my immediate answer would have been no and that was because back then, I used to see jealousy as a bad thing, a weakness.
So in order to be seen as a strong, tough guy, I made sure never to admit to being a jealous lover and that was silly and childish. Now maybe jealousy might be a weakness (I still doubt it), but it's definitely not a bad thing. When it comes to relationship, being jealous just means you love that person so much that you don't want to share them or see them with someone else. Now if you ask me, I see nothing wrong with that, I actually find it cute, as long as it's not the crazy kind of jealousy.
So yeah, when she asked that question, I had smiled before responding, telling her that yeah I'm one of the jealous type. Why did I smile? Well it's simply because I can't believe how much I've grown and how differently I now see a lot of things now.
Anyways she too had admitted to being the jealous type, although that didn't exactly come as a surprise to me. We sat there for some few more minutes and to our surprise, power was restored and we both ran inside to get some sleep. Well, you know how they say there's always a lesson to be learnt, the one lesson I learnt from that conversation was that unlike what I used to think, there's nothing less masculine about feeling jealous.
It's an interesting question. I used to see jealousy as only negative too, but over time I've realized it's more complicated. Some jealousy can come from insecurity, but it can also be an expression of how much you care for someone. The key is balancing strong feelings with trust and communication.
Yeah, trust and communication surely will go a long way when it comes to jealousy. But you see, the main message I'm trying to pass out there to people, is that it's okay to feel jealous, as long as there's kinda like a limit to it.
It is exactly the same when someone is loved, in the same way when he talks to another person, the person who loves us feels very bad, so it is better that both lovers the thing has to be understood.
Understanding is key, true.
Yeah.
Within a limit everything is ok and in case of jealousy it's applicable. But if you act over possessive then it's not right. The opposite person won't like it in that case and may end up with separating ways from you.
Yeah, I agree. Just like the saying goes, too much of anything is bad.
Just like you, I thought it was bad and even denied it initially but with more experience, exposure and understanding I have a changed perspective now.
It's proper within reasonable limits
Exactly. I like your choice of words.
I try my best, thanks boss
I feel your pain last night. It is difficult for us to tell what the Creator will do at any given time. I hope to God you have a wonderful time. Have a good night's sleep. Also, I hope you can come and spend your wonderful moments with me. Thank you very much for presenting some of your difficult things in your personal life to us. May God bless you always, Ameen
Thank you for reading.
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