Is It Even Possible?

How do you not get jealous?

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Today's post is actually inspired by two events, two separate stories that both have one thing in common, jealousy. I feel like jealousy is something we don't exactly have one hundred percent control over. It's an emotion that comes without warning and also one that the harder we try to get rid of it, the harder it sticks. And to be honest, I think the best way to not get jealous is to not care, but sometimes, even that isn't always a walk in the park.

I had written a post here about a guy who liked a lady but the lady ended up liking his friend instead. That whole thing happened week's ago, if not a month ago and this guy was really starting to get over the fact that he got rejected and his friend was picked but according to him, everytime he sees both of them together, his blood boils. He knows that this is a clear sign of jealousy as both him and his friend and the lady in question are cool.

He talks to both parties and also enjoy spending time with them individually but never together at once, because seeing the chemistry between the both of them always reminds him of what he could have had but never will, and he hates that feeling. He wants to know how to not be jealous because he feels like the three of them can really be good friends and the only thing stopping that is him being jealous.

The second story on jealousy is about a guy I know too well. According to this guy, he and his girlfriend had an agreement to be in sort of like an open relationship. I said "sort of" because it's not exactly an open relationship, just one where you can flirt with other people but never get past that.

It's an agreement that they both had come to in other to not make themselves feel trapped in the relationship, a very stupid agreement if you ask me. Well according to this guy that I know, even though he and his girlfriend has this agreement, he still goes outside to answer such calls because he doesn't feel comfortable doing it in front of her, while her on the other hand doesn't care.

Whenever she get calls from guys who literally are asking her to date them, she would pick up the phone with him in the room and just enjoy the whole conversation with occasional giggles and laughter.

It's eating him up.

He really isn't cool with it and while ending the agreement seem like the most reasonable thing anyone with a brain would Italicdo, this guy that I know came to me to ask how he can not care. He literally wants to learn how to be immune to jealousy so that he doesn't get angry when he hears her on the phone.

Of course I told him the best thing to do was to end the agreement but I'm bringing this here anyways because I'm also curious to know the answer to this question. How do you stop yourself from being jealous or how do you control it?

Is it even possible?