How does one control jealousy, when it comes to matters of the heart
Today's topic is one question that has been plaguing my mind for a while now. Jealousy as we know it is mostly something that builds out of envy, we get jealous of someone due to something they have that we wish to also have for ourselves.
And I've come to realize that each jealousy has a different duration of time that it lasts, depending on how quickly we're able to convince ourselves to accept whatever it is that is making us jealous.
One time I had written a post talking about how my neighbor and close friend had felt a little bit jealous when I had gotten a television for myself, and in a bid to stop himself from feeling that way, he had tried selling his laptop just so that he could buy a television.
Anyways, my question for today is, is there a faster and more easier way, for someone to stop themselves from feeling jealous. Because jealousy sucks and it hurts the heart especially when whatever event it is that makes you jealous just occurred.
About a week ago, myself and a friend had visited a mutual friend of us. We had gone there to chill and just spend time in each other's company, but something had happened along the line that made one of us get upset for a couple of days.
Unfortunately, it had something to do with a woman as they both liked the same lady but she had picked one of them and rejected the other ones proposal of friendship, and now whenever he sees her with our friend together, he gets angry and jealous because it reminds him of something he had lost, although he never had it.
I remember him finally telling me that he wasn't going to feel this way forever and that he only needed to accept the fact that she was never going to be with him, accept the fact that they are together and he will be fine and no longer feel jealous, but that is if he truly and genuinely believes and accepts it.
Now I know that the matters of the heart takes time to handle, but how do we do it? How do we become so in charge of our emotions that we get to choose who we want to be jealous of and for how long, irrespective of whatever it is they possess.
How do we control it or is five or more days just a natural amount of time that it takes for someone to get over someone or something and no longer feel jealous about it, depending on whatever that is.
Sincerely, I don't know if there's a general method to heal jealousy.
If something good happens to a person, and I begin to feel just a tinge of jealousy, I remind myself that I should be genuinely happy for them. A win for them is a win for me.
It's just a small talk I hold in my head that always works, somehow.
Personally, I feel like the worse form of jealousy that is hard is get over is that of love.. When you see someone you love with someone else.. It's both heartbreak and jealousy. If there's a way to get over it quickly, it will save a lot of people from unnecessary pain.
I get it
Your friends should know to not let something as this come between them. How about they have a poper talk about it. Holding on to anger and jealousy can be hurtful to oneself in particular.
I think in this case getting a little bit upset was ok but getting angry seems unreasonable. I think we need to accept the truth as fast as possible.
Accepting it as fast as possible is where the problem is.. It's not an easy thing to do.