Getting Detached

_{Photo by Nick Herasimenka}

A friend of mine had posted on his WhatsApp status some few days ago that the best thing anyone can do for themselves is to learn how to detach themselves from people. What he was basically saying was that people need to learn when to walk away and let go and not try to force themselves into people's life because that would save them from a lot of bullshit in the nearest future.

When I read that, I quickly understood and agreed with what he had written because learning when to leave will save us from a lot of unnecessary drama and disrespect.

My friend had written that status because of something that had recently happened between him and a girl. It's funny how youth these days learn something important from things like young romance and stuff. This friend of mine had started talking to this lady about three weeks ago.

He had gotten her number from another friend and when he sent her a text, they both had clicked immediately, it felt like a match from heaven (those were his exacts word to me). They met a few times at his place and it didn't take long for feelings to grow and within that three weeks, they were already kissing and to him, they were almost a couple.

It was nothing official but there's this feeling you get that just tells you that you're almost getting to the relationship stage with that someone and that feeling is what gives you the confidence to ask that person to be your girlfriend. Well, he felt they were getting there but all of a sudden, the lady stopped communicating.

From texting throughout the day to just texting once in two days and it soon became clear to him that he had read the own thing wrong, the lady didn't feel the same way towards him like he felt towards her and for some people, that would be cool. They weren't official yet and it would be easy to just move on, but not for my friend.

For some reason he just cannot find a way to move on, hence his reason for posting that WhatsApp status because deep down in his heart, he's heartbroken for someone who isn't even his girlfriend, which is way worse because you can't even say anything about it to that person, in most cases it will only make you look dumb.

So now, the only light he sees at the end of the tunnel is detachment, something he must learn to do on his own.