Getting Compliments from the Same Gender
Something had happened earlier today, something that prompted me to make this post.
As a guy (especially in Nigeria), the last thing we want is getting complimented from our fellow male counterpart, majority of us don't like it because it makes us feel gay. Now don't get me wrong, I personally have nothing against the lgbtq community, I'm a big advocate of people doing whatever that makes them happy, as long as their happiness doesn't affect me in any negative way.
But you see, if you're not into men, getting touched inappropriately by your fellow men can be seen as them assaulting you sexually and I believe that's how most of the guys feel over here when they get deep compliments from their fellow guys. And by deep compliments, I mean really nice lengthy compliments about your looks that exceeds the usual "you're looking good today" kinda compliment.
Earlier today on my way to school, a guy that was with his friends had complimented my looks and I had given him a slight smile before going on my way. It was a nice light compliment that didn't make me feel awkward, but getting complimented by him reminded me of something that happened about three years ago.
I had just finished applying my make up which basically was just me getting a clean haircut and had gone to this woman's shop to buy something when a guy who was already there, saw me and complimented my looks. This wasn't the usual "you're looking good" kinda compliment, it was more than that, kinda like the kind of compliment a guy would say to a beautiful lady he sees walking down the street.
Of course I felt a bit embarrassed and a little bit uncomfortable but I still felt good nevertheless because I know that it takes a lot for your fellow guy to compliment you, at least it does over here. But that isn't what today's blog is about, it's more about us guys normalising getting and giving compliments to our fellow guys.
If I thought it made me feel gay back in the day, it no longer does. Of course it takes me a lot of courage to compliment a guy (because I don't know how they would react to it), I still try to do it nevertheless, I just don't do too much.
Telling someone that they look good, especially when it comes from the same gender, gives this kind of confidence that I just can't explain, so as guys, we really should learn to do more of that.
The ladies do it and they don't have any trouble with it, so why can't we?
Honestly, nothing wrong with it haha. It's just a mindset thing like how women should do housework, guys can do it too. I think this will slowly phase out because i think more people are being open to new ideas and concepts as you know the boomers maybe are quite closed minded not all of them but u know what i mean. Well maybe not a muslim country like mine haha they are not very lgbt friendly at least most of the time
Yeah I think you're right. The current generation is starting to open up and hopefully in the future, people get to be more free with themselves and not feel a certain way when they do nice things like compliment someone of the same gender.
hopefully not too crazy though lol. i would only feel uncomfortable if it was said to me in a romantic way if you know what i mean xD
I can understand your thoughts and it's logical but naturally a man doesn't say too much about another man and so we can hardly see such kind of scene. In case of someone makes a lengthy compliment about me, I don't have any problem but I will suspect him. I will suspect him and I will avoid him for a little time after listening to compliments and don't allow him to say anything more saying to him I have an argent work. Do you know why?
It's because I am quite confident that he is doing it for his benefit means he needs serious help from me and pampering me for his own interest😅. I faced the situation earlier and so I found out the escape way from it😅.
I laughed real hard reading your comment 😂😂😂
Suspecting him and avoiding him made me laugh real hard 😂😂 but yeah, I think I got your point.
It is the same if there is something lacking in a human being and if we all know it then we should not make fun of him at all. It will happen because it is a book of calculation which is done in the way that a human being does, these things happen in the same way at the time, so it is better that we should always support each other and help each other. Then life will be easy for all of us.
Yup.. And saying nice things (like compliments) also help makes one's day, so why not? 😅
We should give out more compliments.