From the Father to the Sons
My dad has always been the kind of man who only went out when he had to, he had few to no friends and would always go from work to back home and from home to work and because that was my dad's lifestyle, it rubbed off on us.
We weren't allowed to visit anyone because there was no one to visit. With no friends, the only people we could visit were my dad's siblings but even that was almost an impossible tasks as they all lived in different states in the country, so going for a simple visit would require some serious preparations and also expenses as we would be traveling interstate, so it just never really happened.
And seeing how we never got far away from home, we all got attached to it, we just never knew it until the day we finally left home. My little brother was finally allowed to go spend the weekend with some friends about a month ago and about few hours at their place, he called me to tell me he wanted to come back home.
I immediately started laughing because I understood how he felt, so I had called my dad to tell him about it but my old man had refused. In his words, he had said that my little brother was a man and he should learn how to be in places without his family being around. That probably was the worse weekend he has had in a long time.
And the funny thing is he's not the only one who has missed home few days after being away from it, I too went through the same phase when I first traveled to school. I remember the whole new experience of being away from home as scary and I had immediately called and told them I wanted to come back home.
I remember my mom and my siblings laughing at me while my dad was the only one giving words of encouragement and asking me to stay just for a year and if after a year I still felt like coming back home, then no problem. That year was four years ago and now I'm the one getting forced to visit home during the holidays.
At the end of it all, I'm not blaming my dad for anything, he probably didn't even know that his lifestyle was going to affect us in anyway, all I'm just trying to say that there are certain things (sometime even little things) that we don't pay attention to that ends us affecting our lives in a huge way.
YOu do miss your family when you stay out for many days, there is nothing bad about it. Your brother will useful to this if he goes out with his friends more often. No doubt your father is the only one to encourage you in such conditions. he wants you to be a man.
Yeah I know that there's nothing bad about it 😅 I just feel like we all need to get used to being away from home more often.
Who nose 🐽, maybe your dad has his own dad's lifestyle rub off on him, and not it's on you guys. The thing is, it's perfectly understandable that one picks one or two things from home, whether we like it or not, butm in the end, it's our decision to define our personality and characters with the choices we make.
My mother is a traveler. She has first a class degree in that field of going from places to places, visiting people every now and then. Guess what? My brother and I are just like you and your siblings. We just like to dey dey our dey in our comfort zones, like home. Only God knows how that happened. LOL
This might be true but no one nose bro, no one nose 😂😂.
I guess that happens too.
We get used to stay in a place when we stay there for a long time. Emotion started to grow related to the place. In my life I also have experience I can relate to you very well.
Yeah. We start to feel homesick and want to go back.. It happens.