Don't Be a Mime
About a couple of years back or thereabout, I had this thought that made me decide to speak less and just let people do the talking. Now this isn't because I wanted to hear about other people's point of view or their thoughts on the matter we may be discussing (it is actually part of the reason but not the main focus of today's post), I just felt like saying less would be cool and I've heard a lot of people (including myself) complain about people who are extremely loud and refuse to hangout with them.
So whenever I'm in the midst of people, I most likely would be the one with the least amount of words said and it was partly because I believe the saying that a wise man doesn't say much but when he does speak, people listen. Which to me is really cool and nice, except for the part where people take your silence for weakness and stupidity.
I actually didn't know this until I started speaking less and then I realized that certain people just assume that they can ride over me just simply because I'm not the loud type of guy. Which really is a big mistake on their part because though I might have the gentleman kinda personality, one thing I've always fought against is people riding over me and just treating me like I'm some sort of trash just because I refused to speak up and that is why I made sure to make it clear to myself that no matter how gentle I might get to be in this life, never will I let such a thing happen to me.
I vowed to speak up when I'm being bullied even if it takes me out of my comfort zone.
Unfortunately, not every quiet guy out there has this same mentality and some of them would just endure whatever torture that is being done to them. But that really shouldn't be the case. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be a quiet guy or lady and still speaking up for yourself when you should. I just feel it will be nice to know that whenever trouble comes to look for you and probably wants to prey on you, you will be loud enough to deal with it and not just act like a coward and hide in a corner.
Because I may choose to be cool but I refuse to be a coward and be bullied.
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I also choose to be quiet most of time and I feel it's beneficial for me most of time. But in case of my right I speak clearly. It's my nature. It's like I am quiet and clam, not the weak one that anyone can bully me. I have a similar mentality with you in this case. One dialogue come to my head most of the time. It is:
"Don't mess with me,I will destroy you if you dare to do it ".
And that is exactly how it should be.
Something that I think also happens sometimes is that whoever speaks little, when they decide to speak jokingly, people take it seriously.
I'm not such a quiet guy, but I know I have to be the one who speaks the least on specific occasions. So I'm the one who listens the most and talks the least. But at some point in the serious meeting, I let out a laugh or say a crazy solution that is obviously in jest. Then, the others start trying to debate me on the idea in a reasonable and logical way. Then I have to tell them, "Hey guys, it was just a joke."
In those cases, I learned that we still have to be careful what we say, even if it's something funny, because they might take it seriously. Regards @prayzz
Well you're right.. Everyone has to be careful about the things they say, even if they're the quiet type of people or the loud one.