Death Has It's Own Lessons

Sometimes, it takes bad things to happen for us to really understand important life lessons, things that if said to us earlier would mean nothing but just words.

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When I lost my mom few years ago, it made me realize how short life can be and how we humans take a lot of silly things and make them feel important because we all think there is time. My mom's death messed me up real good but it also changed me in a good way. Now this might just be me trying to be positive, trying to look at the good side of a bad situation, but her death made me realize that life is simple and that we are the ones who make it real complicated.

It also made me to be free with myself and made me do things I normally wouldn't do. It taught me that there wasn't enough time and if you wanted to do something, now was the best time to do it.

I remember after some few months when the whole thing happened, I had given my friends the speech, the life is short and unpredictable speech and I could see it in their faces that they knew I was saying something important but they just weren't taking it as serious as I wanted them to and I remember I was a bit confused as to why that was.

Why weren't they understanding the importance of what I was telling them and sadly, I never got an answer to that question, not until today.

In the early hours of today, one of the same friends I was preaching to had lost a colleague who was also a close friend of his. According to my friend, he and this other guy had both worked the night shift together some few days ago, only for him to hear this morning that the guy was no more, he had gone to bed and never woke up.

My friend had explained the whole thing to us and then suddenly, he started to give us the speech. He started to tell us the importance of speaking up and asking for help whenever we want help. He literally was begging us not to die in silence because there just might be someone who will be willing to help. He basically was just remixing the whole thing I had said to them some few years back, he just didn't know it.

I could tell that the death of this guy really pierced his heart because sadly, I've learned the hard way that only death would make you understand some certain things, and that was when I got the answer to my question, that was when I understood why these guys weren't taking me seriously back then, it was because they weren't experiencing the loss that I was experiencing.

But I really don't blame them, especially now that I know that for them to really understand what I said to them, they would have to experience what I experienced, which I really don't pray for anyone to go through.

So yeah, maybe there are certain things that only the death of a love one would teach you, but I hope that we don't have to understand it through experiencing it, because we don't want anyone to die.