Boys will Be Boys
I believe that we all can agree that when it comes to feelings and expressing it especially to the same gender, women does it better and I honestly don't know why that is, it's just like that. Over here, I've seen ladies hug each other and even give really nice compliments to their fellow ladies, why you rarely see that happen when it comes to the guys.
And the funny thing is that about two years ago, I decided to be more open and vocal when it comes to complimenting people. So if I see someone looking good in a nice outfit, I try to say something really nice that might even make you blush (if you're a lady) but when it comes to the guys I always keep it simple because boys are boys and we understand that you don't have to say too much to say what you really want to say and unfortunately, I feel like not being able to say how we really feel to our fellow men sometimes affects us in ways we refuse to admit.
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Earlier today, one of our friends (and neighbour) told us about his intentions to move out of the hostel anytime soon. His reason was that he wanted to move to a place with a larger space and immediately he said that, I could tell that the mood in the room changed and the next words that came out of the mouth of another of our friend who was in the room with us confirmed my thoughts.
He asked him why he wanted to move and also asked him if where he planned to move to was safe from police harassment and stuff. Basically, one could tell he was trying to discourage the other guy from going ahead with his plans of moving out, not because he was jealous of him or anything along that line, but because he would miss him.
He didn't exactly say it but he didn't have to. The guy moving out is one of our friends who we all usually go to his room every night to play games and just have fun, and him moving out would mean that game night would no longer be what it used to be and he didn't want that. But one might ask that instead of him beating around the bush and asking if his new place is safe from the police blah blah blah, why not just tell him how you feel about him moving out, why not tell him you'd miss him if left and maybe, maybe that might make him change his mind because then he might relize how loves he is here and might choose to stay back.
Unfortunately, boys will always be boys and he will never say those words, neither would I and we all will just watch him leave and pretend like all is fine. It sucks but there's nothing we're going to do about it.
It’s like we find certain things cringey to say to each other because we’re supposed to be too masculine to say them. It’s not the best way to live, but that’s how society has forced us to be. I understand how you wished that that friend would’ve been plain about his intentions, but I’m very sure that if he did say it plain that he’ll miss him, someone in the sitting would’ve made a joke about him being gay or something. Lol it is what it is.
You just explained it perfectly and yeah, you're also right about us laughing if he had told him he would miss him 😂😂
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STOPWell, this may be about boys and it may also be about personality. There are also some people who do not really know how to say things directly so they will beat around the bush
This might be true but I'm very sure it has nothing to do with personality.. It's just boys.
I can feel you. I experienced the same also. I think it become a tradition to hide feeling of boys. We hesitate to share our feelings directly. We are boys. So you can't be emotional 😅. That's the rule..
That's the rule 😂😂😂