Accidental Lies

I'm in a bit of a dilemma here, and the situation is one that has unintentionally made me become the last thing I want to be known as, a liar.

I do this thing where whenever I'm making plans for something, this something most times is something that is not so serious, so they can be shared with friends. I had to clarify that because most of my serious plans are mostly kept secret until they have been executed.

_{photo by Glenn Carstens-Peters}

Well, whenever I'm making plans, maybe like travel plans, I do this thing where I tell the people closest to me that I could be travelling in a week or two. I never give them any specific date because I still like to add a bit of mystery to it, but I tell them enough to give them the idea that something like this could be happening in the near future. That way, they don't get surprised by it when they wake up one morning and discover that I've travelled.

My only problem with this is that I most times share this information a bit too early, most times even when the travel plans are just mere thoughts in my head and could easily be changed. I don't do it on purpose, as sometimes it just comes up in conversations, and I just say that I might be travelling in a few days time.

Now, due to the fact that that whole travelling thing is still just a thought, I most times find myself having a change of plans and deciding to not travel. And while that might not feel like a big deal, when you do that a couple of times, people tend to start to not believe you when you say things like that any more because now they're getting used to you saying those things, and some might start to think that you're lying to them.

Which, to be honest, isn't entirely their fault. But also, if you look at things from my point of view, I only tell those people my plans that early so as not to forget or not tell them later and make them get upset with me.

Sadly, this entire situation has now turned me into an accidental liar and has put me in a position where I now no longer wish to tell anyone anything, unless I've got the bus ticket, and I'm probably about getting on the bus. Unfortunately, that would get some of them upset, but I'd rather they get upset than call me a liar.