A day with a mystery girl

Photo by Charles Parker

Yesterday evening, I took out a good number of hours from everything work-related and decided to chat with random people for a change. I stumbled on someone who once chatted me up but chose to remain anonymous. I must confess, I wasn't so nice to her when she first contacted me without disclosing her identity.

I'm not regretting it, though; I don't still think that she deserves any form of niceness. Why barge into someone's inbox and choose to be anonymous even without stating your mission?

When she first came, I asked her how I could be of help to her, and she said she didn't need my help. I then asked how she could be of help to me, just so that we wouldn't be useless to each other. If I can't help her, she should at least be able to help me. I mean, we can't be useless to one another.

She picked offence, saying that I called her useless, gave mockery apologies for coming into my inbox, and left.

But before the brief chat ended, I noticed her excellent use of words and how flawless her grammar was. So I decided not to block her because she certainly has some of the qualities of someone I'll want to interact with. Also, I could swear that she's someone I know who's only trying to play a prank on me, but based on my recent findings, I'm not so confident in my stand.

Yesterday evening, I contacted her first. She was surprised because of our first unpleasant meeting. But she sounded a bit excited. I took her like a piece of puzzle I was trying to solve. And I succeeded in fixing bits of the puzzle. I figured out that she's a female in her early twenties. I could even sense that before asking her. Who doesn't know how Gen-Z baddies sound?

Additionally, I found out she's from my state and also stays there. I even learned about the school she attended, her place of worship, her educational qualifications, and her vocation. At a point, I stopped prying on her identity; I let her be while only concentrating on bantering on random stuff.

The next time I want to work on my investigative and persuasive skills, I will contact her again and complete the remaining part of the puzzle. Let's save it for next time.

Interestingly, during the course of the discussion, she asked me if I'm married or dating. I told her that if I were married, I wouldn't have spent my free period chatting with a mystery girl; I would've rather spent it cuddling my wife and playing with my kids.

I added that if I were also in a serious relationship, I wouldn't have spent such a long period of time chit-chatting with a random female. The statement came as a surprise to her. She demanded an explanation.

Reading through the explanation I gave her, it looked so enlightening. I'll be sharing it here for your input.

It's difficult to consistently chat with someone of the opposite sex without developing an emotional attachment at some point.

If you want to be faithful to your partner, it's safe to reduce conversations with someone of the opposite sex, unless it's official.

The fact that you're bantering with someone for a long period of time means you're enjoying the person's company. Fondness is growing. These things involve your emotions.

Don't spend too much time with what you don't want to fall in love with (love here mustn't be romantic).

With time, flaws look beautiful.

There's a reason the Bible uses the word 'don't' for some instructions while using words like flee, avoid, run from, etc. for others.

The thing is, 'don't' has to do with your will.

There are things you wouldn't do because you chose not to do them.

But there are things you'll do against your will.

So, when it comes to those things you can do against your will, you have to avoid, flee, and run away from scenarios that might lead to them.

So, if you don't like something and you don't want to fall in love with it or do it, avoid that thing.

If you don't, you will fall for it even if you don't want to.

You don't walk in the rain, and yet you pray for your clothes not to be wet.

You don't want your clothes to get wet?

Avoid water.

Many of our actions aren't actually actions; they're reactions.

They are consequences of our previous actions.

All I'm saying is that you shouldn't do what has the propensity of leading you to do what you wouldn't like to do.